Was I justified in ghosting in this situation?

I started talking to a guy for a couple of weeks. I like to talk to guys for a while (I'm 24f) before I make a date with them to make sure they're not psychos. Well I'm a virgin and sometimes I tell guys this ahead of time if the conversation calls for it. It's not for religious reasons but I've wanted to wait until I've met the right person. I warn guys sometimes before I even meet them to make it's something they're comfortable with and so neither of our time is wasted. Well, I was talking to this guy for a couple of weeks and we seemed to get along pretty well and than I mentioned I was a virgin. The dude had a super harsh reaction. He also started interrogating me how often I shaved and I was honest and said I don't always when I have no reason too. (Like if it's winter, I might go a while without doing it if I'm not dating someone and working out at home. Like who would care?) And he said there would be an attraction issue and stopped talking to me. Of course, this hurt my feelings because I felt like I was being rejected solely for being honest about my habits and for the fact that I was a virgin.

He than randomly texts me back the next day and said he realized he was being a jerk and his brother had called him out on it. I said he was. He asked me if I wanted to go out. I said I needed a few days to think about whether or not I want to. He said fine. The next morning he texted me offering to take me to a museum (which he hates but I said I like). I told him I had asked him not to text me for a couple of days since I wanted time to think about whether or not to have a date. He got really angry at me and called me ungrateful. He said I can't tell him what to do. At that point, I had enough and blocked him. Was I wrong for doing that? I felt like he wasn't going to take a rejection respectfully and I just shouldn't deal with him.



Submitted July 24, 2019 at 11:41PM

I started talking to a guy for a couple of weeks. I like to talk to guys for a while (I'm 24f) before I make a date with them to make sure they're not psychos. Well I'm a virgin and sometimes I tell guys this ahead of time if the conversation calls for it. It's not for religious reasons but I've wanted to wait until I've met the right person. I warn guys sometimes before I even meet them to make it's something they're comfortable with and so neither of our time is wasted. Well, I was talking to this guy for a couple of weeks and we seemed to get along pretty well and than I mentioned I was a virgin. The dude had a super harsh reaction. He also started interrogating me how often I shaved and I was honest and said I don't always when I have no reason too. (Like if it's winter, I might go a while without doing it if I'm not dating someone and working out at home. Like who would care?) And he said there would be an attraction issue and stopped talking to me. Of course, this hurt my feelings because I felt like I was being rejected solely for being honest about my habits and for the fact that I was a virgin.He than randomly texts me back the next day and said he realized he was being a jerk and his brother had called him out on it. I said he was. He asked me if I wanted to go out. I said I needed a few days to think about whether or not I want to. He said fine. The next morning he texted me offering to take me to a museum (which he hates but I said I like). I told him I had asked him not to text me for a couple of days since I wanted time to think about whether or not to have a date. He got really angry at me and called me ungrateful. He said I can't tell him what to do. At that point, I had enough and blocked him. Was I wrong for doing that? I felt like he wasn't going to take a rejection respectfully and I just shouldn't deal with him.

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