Is this worth my time? (f28, m25).

Hey y’all!

I feel silly posting this buuut here we are haha, SO, a Little bit of background information!

I’ve “known” this guy for years and years and years. We never hung out with the same crowd, but we grew up in the same small town. We weren’t exactly friends but we knew who each other was. Sooo about 2 years ago, he added me on Instagram and we followed each other on there and talked a bit. A few months later, we matched on tinder with each other (I don’t think we ever hung out together because of tinder), but a couple months after that even, we DID hang out after texting each other for a bit. So that puts us at about 1.5 years ago. So he came over to my house, we hung out and talked and watched a movie etc etc. After he left, he texted me and said he had fun with me and wanted to see me again. So I asked him about a week later if he wanted to hang out and he came over to my house and we ended up making out with each other and watched a couple of movies. Again, he messaged me after and told me he had fun and thanks for coming over. So a few days go by and my birthday is that weekend. I ask him to come and he says if he isn’t busy at work he will. The day comes and I asked him about work and he said he was sick, didn’t truly believe him but all good. Said no worries. A few days pass I asked him if he wants to get together, that I liked hanging out with him and that we should plan something, and he said “sounds swell”. I don’t know but that kind of rubbed me the wrong way haha. So anyways I go on Facebook and I see him tagging this other girl in a bunch of things with kisses and hearts so I’m like “ok?” And felt really stupid! So I canceled our plans (said I got stuck at work and might be late), he actually never even texted me back. I thought you know you win some you lose some. So that brings us to present time, about 1.5 years later. I end up talking to him again, and we end up hanging out. He asked me if I could hang out 3 times before I was actually able to. I bring up what happened and he said he doesn’t remember it that way and that he had a lot of stuff going on last year and lost a lot of friends. I figure you know, I’ll forgive things once. I told him it’s all good, past is the past but I’ll only do that once. We end up hanging out at my house for a couple of hours just talking to each other. When he left he’s like we should really do this again sometime. Then after he left, it’s like his messages and texting cooled down again and I had to initiate the conversations. Which is fine but just noticeably different from before we hung out. So, I asked him to hang out one night and he said “that would be nice :)” and we made plans but then he ended up having to cancel a couple of hours before we hung out. He told me he could come over later on but I said it was okay as I had to work in the morning. I told him I had the weekend off and another day would be okay. He said “ok😊”. Then comes the weekend and I didn’t hear from him, so I texted him Saturday night and we hung out with each other on Sunday morning (he asked). We ended up having sex, but hung out after and talked for a few hours. He messaged me later that day asking how my day was and and we talked the next couple days but briefly. So I asked him if he wanted to hang out last week on Thursday and he was busy but that would have been nice. So I asked him what his next few days were like and he said he was busy. So I asked him if he wanted to hang out today later on but he has family things going on (father’s day here), so then I said “do you want to plan something for this week?” And he said “sure :)”.

NOW, I guess I am asking, does this seem like a situation I should bother with? This guy just does something for me, I don’t know what it is but he is exactly the kind of guy I’d want around in my life. But I also don’t know how I feel about me being the one who initiates plans and I like to feel wanted and want him to ask me to hang out to. When we’re together it’s awesome!!! And it’s not like I can just bring this up to him lol we aren’t in a relationship or anything I don’t want to scare him off or come off as a stage 5 clinger. But I want to be wanted.

I don’t know I’m rambling haha. Any and all advice is appreciated!

Submitted June 16, 2019 at 11:29PM

Hey y’all!I feel silly posting this buuut here we are haha, SO, a Little bit of background information!I’ve “known” this guy for years and years and years. We never hung out with the same crowd, but we grew up in the same small town. We weren’t exactly friends but we knew who each other was. Sooo about 2 years ago, he added me on Instagram and we followed each other on there and talked a bit. A few months later, we matched on tinder with each other (I don’t think we ever hung out together because of tinder), but a couple months after that even, we DID hang out after texting each other for a bit. So that puts us at about 1.5 years ago. So he came over to my house, we hung out and talked and watched a movie etc etc. After he left, he texted me and said he had fun with me and wanted to see me again. So I asked him about a week later if he wanted to hang out and he came over to my house and we ended up making out with each other and watched a couple of movies. Again, he messaged me after and told me he had fun and thanks for coming over. So a few days go by and my birthday is that weekend. I ask him to come and he says if he isn’t busy at work he will. The day comes and I asked him about work and he said he was sick, didn’t truly believe him but all good. Said no worries. A few days pass I asked him if he wants to get together, that I liked hanging out with him and that we should plan something, and he said “sounds swell”. I don’t know but that kind of rubbed me the wrong way haha. So anyways I go on Facebook and I see him tagging this other girl in a bunch of things with kisses and hearts so I’m like “ok?” And felt really stupid! So I canceled our plans (said I got stuck at work and might be late), he actually never even texted me back. I thought you know you win some you lose some. So that brings us to present time, about 1.5 years later. I end up talking to him again, and we end up hanging out. He asked me if I could hang out 3 times before I was actually able to. I bring up what happened and he said he doesn’t remember it that way and that he had a lot of stuff going on last year and lost a lot of friends. I figure you know, I’ll forgive things once. I told him it’s all good, past is the past but I’ll only do that once. We end up hanging out at my house for a couple of hours just talking to each other. When he left he’s like we should really do this again sometime. Then after he left, it’s like his messages and texting cooled down again and I had to initiate the conversations. Which is fine but just noticeably different from before we hung out. So, I asked him to hang out one night and he said “that would be nice :)” and we made plans but then he ended up having to cancel a couple of hours before we hung out. He told me he could come over later on but I said it was okay as I had to work in the morning. I told him I had the weekend off and another day would be okay. He said “ok😊”. Then comes the weekend and I didn’t hear from him, so I texted him Saturday night and we hung out with each other on Sunday morning (he asked). We ended up having sex, but hung out after and talked for a few hours. He messaged me later that day asking how my day was and and we talked the next couple days but briefly. So I asked him if he wanted to hang out last week on Thursday and he was busy but that would have been nice. So I asked him what his next few days were like and he said he was busy. So I asked him if he wanted to hang out today later on but he has family things going on (father’s day here), so then I said “do you want to plan something for this week?” And he said “sure :)”.NOW, I guess I am asking, does this seem like a situation I should bother with? This guy just does something for me, I don’t know what it is but he is exactly the kind of guy I’d want around in my life. But I also don’t know how I feel about me being the one who initiates plans and I like to feel wanted and want him to ask me to hang out to. When we’re together it’s awesome!!! And it’s not like I can just bring this up to him lol we aren’t in a relationship or anything I don’t want to scare him off or come off as a stage 5 clinger. But I want to be wanted.I don’t know I’m rambling haha. Any and all advice is appreciated!