My parents have always had this rule of "no technology in your room." Okay, fine, that was good when we were younger. As I got older my parents had more kids and we moved into a very large, very beautiful house, and my bedroom (which I am very happy with) is on the second floor. Not having technology soon became a bit of a nuisance, because my room is awesome and I love being able to spend time there. Furthermore, we have two baby siblings who scream and break everything. We've been in the house for a little over a year now and I turned 18 last November. My parents allowed me to use a SCHOOL ISSUED computer in my room for homework purposes, but I had to plug it in downstairs at night. On top of this, while I have been diligent in following the rules, (I plug my phone and computer in by the kitchen, my mom checks most nights) my brother (15M) does not give a RAT'S ASS about the rules. Before the quarantine he would bring his phone into his room, he's be up late ...

Hey everyone, I (25F) started casually seeing a guy last October. He's a pilot from the west coast, and I live in NY. His flights are all on the east coast and I met him through a dating app- he occasionally stays in hotels overnight around my area. We've been texting every day since we matched on the app last year. However, we've only hung out twice in person, the last time being in November. It's difficult to see each other because of our distance and the fact that he's been on a leave of absence from work. Our conversations are pretty lackluster, partially due to COVID (being quarantined with nothing to do). I've told him that we should meet up again soon and he agrees, but hasn't made a real effort to try to hang out. He wants to fly me to his state but he's not very proactive about making set plans. We haven't been dating or hooking up with other people since we've met (at least this is what he tells me). He goes out a lot, but I don'...

Hello! I am writing this post because I feel exhausted by "status quo" in my relationship due to pandemics. My problem is routine. We see each other about 3-4 times a week, and we do almost the same stuff - talking and watching movies, going for a brief walks. I am afraid that our future life would look like this and this exhausts me. I have absolutely boring life now, nothing happens, I study, sleep, play video games and that's it. I think, that I might have OCD, my symptoms are the same as my mother's and she is diagnosed with it. Another important thing - soon my girlfriend is going to have final exams before going to the university. She is totally stressed out and focused on it. I am really struggling because I try my best to motivate her etc, but I lack affection for most of the time as she cant think about anything else but her exams. I dont blame her to be clear, but I am feeling lonely a bit now. Our sex life got worse, we have sex once a week, but its beca...

My BF (28M) and I (27F) have dated for 4 years. He has a number of deep-rooted insecurities that cause his depression. It frequently develops into a tornado of self-loathing which he internalizes and then shuts people out, mostly me. We have started months of couples therapy as his negative internalizing has caused many arguments between us. We have been addressing and making efforts about getting him to be vulnerable and verbalize his feelings and communicate what he wants. Our communication skills have gotten much better, but it's still frustrating for me to be patient with his withdrawal and ignoring especially when we live together now and are discussing getting married. I frequently will not know what he is upset about until days later, so for the time being, he will do the passive-aggressive "I'm fine" and walk away from me or ignore me. I am trying to be sensitive to his depression, but after years of being lied to about what he is feeling and being given t...

I worked with her a while back. We became good friends. There was an attraction and energy but it never went there. She moved away, got married and started a family but we kept in touch. It started getting awkward for me because she never introduced me to her husband and I guess wanted to keep our friendship separate. But this always was in the back of my mind every time we talked so one day I brought it up. I forget how I started the convo but I remember she was annoyed by it and said something like I have another guy best friend too, and my husband knows I have ‘my friends’ and he’s ok with that. That wasn’t my issue though. And maybe this is my hang up or insecurity but I feel slighted that I’m kept separate. I was raised that when someone gets married, especially if its a man and woman friendship, things will change and I’ve told her that I would like to meet her husband (at least over the phone) and talk and get to know him...like hey man, I’m your wife’s friend. I mean if I wer...

Recently, I had to stop taking my anti-depressants due to losing work related- insurance from to covid-19, but am waiting on Government assistant. I created an issue through text message with my boyfriend that was already resolved. I am hoping someone can send me some words of wisdom on what I can say to him resolve this. I was trying to explain my emotions to him about how I’m unsure of certain actions he had made. Granted, I support his decisions as it is his and I love him and I don’t really have a say in what he wants to do as he is his own person. He wanted me to stop intruding on what he does or where he goes as it’s annoying which I understand. I ended up following up with a past petty example of well if I let you do what you want without questioning it, you’ll end up paying for a hooker. (Too which he did, but the issue was resolved because I believe people can be forgiven for mistakes, but never forgotten.) I said something to petty and immature and this has lead him to n...

Hey everyone. Thanks for the advice in my first post. Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/gsjjba/letting_men_pay/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share I wanna start by saying that my date went really well! I was pretty nervous since it was my first time doing this, but all I can say is thank goodness for alcohol lol. He was really sweet and very accommodating of my nerves and we had a really nice meal and conversation. I actually brought up the topic of paying for the date and what his thoughts were. I even showed him this thread haha. His opinion was that he really liked getting to pay for his date because it made him feel confident and likes to spoil his date. He said in his experience his dates have either not let him pay in full or have expected him to do it. He said his ideal is the woman being capable and willing to pay for herself but happy to let him cover it, which in turn makes him happy. I let him pay for dinner like he wanted but I secr...