Should I reach out to him? (Asking for a guy's perspective...)

I want advice from anyone and everyone willing to offer it, but I also want to hear a guy's perspective specifically on what they thing about this situation, so without further ado...

CONTEXT: So last semester, toward the end of it, I realized that the guy that I'd been sitting next to the entire semester was actually kinda cute. One day (this happened around April) I asked him if he wanted to go grab coffee after class and he said yes and we hung out for about an hour or so that day. It was great, I got his socials, and we were no longer strangers who sat next to each other. Few weeks went by (maybe 2 or 3) and we didn't really talk outside of class or even in class tbh. Just said hi and went about our day. But finals week was right around the corner so I asked him if he wanted to study for the final together to which he said yes and we had a little study sesh that day.

A little preface: we are both very quiet, introverted people, and honestly I can't tell if the study session was weird or not. The entire time it was just me asking questions and he never really asked me anything. But he wasn't disinterested or unresponsive to me making conversation, he would just never follow up with "how about you?" I don't know whether to chalk it up to him just being quiet, maybe a bit nervous, or that he was just not into me. Cause I feel like I sometimes act the same way around people I don't really know. Anyways, would love to hear your opinion about this as well, but moving on.

Then the day before the final I texted him, just checking up, asking him how he felt abt the exam blah blah blah. We took the exam and I texted him AGAIN after class asking him how he thought it went. ANYWAYS, I tried pivoting the conversation so that we would talk about anything other than the exam and just enter a natural flow of texting. But he completely shut down our convo by responding to my text and then wishing me luck on the rest of my studying. This was back in May and we haven't spoken since. School ended, summer started, we each went our separate way and I didn't reach out to him over the summer.

So now begins my dilemma: school started back up again and I still think he's cute and I want to reach out. Is it weird if I reach out to him after not talking to him all summer? We have not interacted since last semester. Is it weird if I'm like "hey how have you been want to catch up?" Because I think it's a bit odd considering we haven't spoken in so long. Keeping our interactions in mind, would you consider it odd if I reached out? Also, I can't even tell if he is not interested in me or if he's just more introverted/quiet/not the type to reach out. Guys, would you be weirded out if you were in this situation and the girl reached out to you? Am I overthinking this? Mainly I'm just concerned he'll think its weird or odd. Be brutally honest about the situation. Thanks and sorry for the most long winded question ever :)

Submitted September 25, 2022 at 01:15AM

I want advice from anyone and everyone willing to offer it, but I also want to hear a guy's perspective specifically on what they thing about this situation, so without further ado...CONTEXT: So last semester, toward the end of it, I realized that the guy that I'd been sitting next to the entire semester was actually kinda cute. One day (this happened around April) I asked him if he wanted to go grab coffee after class and he said yes and we hung out for about an hour or so that day. It was great, I got his socials, and we were no longer strangers who sat next to each other. Few weeks went by (maybe 2 or 3) and we didn't really talk outside of class or even in class tbh. Just said hi and went about our day. But finals week was right around the corner so I asked him if he wanted to study for the final together to which he said yes and we had a little study sesh that day.A little preface: we are both very quiet, introverted people, and honestly I can't tell if the study session was weird or not. The entire time it was just me asking questions and he never really asked me anything. But he wasn't disinterested or unresponsive to me making conversation, he would just never follow up with "how about you?" I don't know whether to chalk it up to him just being quiet, maybe a bit nervous, or that he was just not into me. Cause I feel like I sometimes act the same way around people I don't really know. Anyways, would love to hear your opinion about this as well, but moving on.Then the day before the final I texted him, just checking up, asking him how he felt abt the exam blah blah blah. We took the exam and I texted him AGAIN after class asking him how he thought it went. ANYWAYS, I tried pivoting the conversation so that we would talk about anything other than the exam and just enter a natural flow of texting. But he completely shut down our convo by responding to my text and then wishing me luck on the rest of my studying. This was back in May and we haven't spoken since. School ended, summer started, we each went our separate way and I didn't reach out to him over the summer.So now begins my dilemma: school started back up again and I still think he's cute and I want to reach out. Is it weird if I reach out to him after not talking to him all summer? We have not interacted since last semester. Is it weird if I'm like "hey how have you been want to catch up?" Because I think it's a bit odd considering we haven't spoken in so long. Keeping our interactions in mind, would you consider it odd if I reached out? Also, I can't even tell if he is not interested in me or if he's just more introverted/quiet/not the type to reach out. Guys, would you be weirded out if you were in this situation and the girl reached out to you? Am I overthinking this? Mainly I'm just concerned he'll think its weird or odd. Be brutally honest about the situation. Thanks and sorry for the most long winded question ever :)