I had a “thing” with a former teacher who is 26 years older than me. I don’t know what to say to him now that we’re in contact again, but still in the same school

I had a teacher (M44) in math before summer when I was 17, just about to turn 18. He was generally very rude towards everyone in our class, but sweet to me (most of the time), he wanted to help me in math and physics (I didn’t have him in physics). He helped me through email in the beginning, but then told me it was easier through text, so we started chatting on WhatsApp. He initiated conversations that wasn’t about school and asked me what I was doing on a Friday night. We talked a lot after school (I asked him questions about math and physics but then we started to talk about things outside of school). We sometimes took the train together and talked a lot. He told me that he remembered a thing from the fall: “I remember this day… I thought to myself that this girl is..” then he stopped and smiled so much. We went to a library outside of school to study and he bought me a coffee (the meet-up was his initiative). He also asked me if I wanted to go and grab a coffee with him after school in the city. He was very flirty. He made me promise not to tell anyone about what was going on (a few of my friends knew however, but he things no one knows.) Then we completely stopped talking during the summer. I don’t have him anymore, but I’m still in the same school and see him almost everyday. I hadn’t talked to him for almost three months, but then I ran into him one night a few days ago, and I couldn’t help myself so I asked him what his “intentions” were and why he wrote to me. He told me it was just to help me with school, but he smiled a lot when he told me, and when I said that it was he who wanted to go out for a coffee with me it almost looked like he was going to tell me that he liked me. I told him that I liked talking with him and he said that we could keep chatting, just not about school. We have been texting a little since then. But now he’s telling me that it’s more normal for me to be friends with people my age. I just don’t understand and I don’t know what to do, because I can FEEL that it wasn’t just to help me with school before summer. I really like (or just likeD) him.

Nothing physical happened except for one time when he put his hand on my knee and on my back.

I don’t know if he’s telling the truth; that it was just about school or if he’s lying because he doesn’t want to confess. And I don’t know what to say to him now. On one hand I still like him, but on the other hand I want to scream at him because I’m so sad and tired of it. The spring really ruined me because of his ups and downs towards me.

((English is not my first language, and I should mention that there were signs during our talks and online but it’s impossible to write down everything))

Submitted September 25, 2022 at 12:13AM

I had a teacher (M44) in math before summer when I was 17, just about to turn 18. He was generally very rude towards everyone in our class, but sweet to me (most of the time), he wanted to help me in math and physics (I didn’t have him in physics). He helped me through email in the beginning, but then told me it was easier through text, so we started chatting on WhatsApp. He initiated conversations that wasn’t about school and asked me what I was doing on a Friday night. We talked a lot after school (I asked him questions about math and physics but then we started to talk about things outside of school). We sometimes took the train together and talked a lot. He told me that he remembered a thing from the fall: “I remember this day… I thought to myself that this girl is..” then he stopped and smiled so much. We went to a library outside of school to study and he bought me a coffee (the meet-up was his initiative). He also asked me if I wanted to go and grab a coffee with him after school in the city. He was very flirty. He made me promise not to tell anyone about what was going on (a few of my friends knew however, but he things no one knows.) Then we completely stopped talking during the summer. I don’t have him anymore, but I’m still in the same school and see him almost everyday. I hadn’t talked to him for almost three months, but then I ran into him one night a few days ago, and I couldn’t help myself so I asked him what his “intentions” were and why he wrote to me. He told me it was just to help me with school, but he smiled a lot when he told me, and when I said that it was he who wanted to go out for a coffee with me it almost looked like he was going to tell me that he liked me. I told him that I liked talking with him and he said that we could keep chatting, just not about school. We have been texting a little since then. But now he’s telling me that it’s more normal for me to be friends with people my age. I just don’t understand and I don’t know what to do, because I can FEEL that it wasn’t just to help me with school before summer. I really like (or just likeD) him.Nothing physical happened except for one time when he put his hand on my knee and on my back.I don’t know if he’s telling the truth; that it was just about school or if he’s lying because he doesn’t want to confess. And I don’t know what to say to him now. On one hand I still like him, but on the other hand I want to scream at him because I’m so sad and tired of it. The spring really ruined me because of his ups and downs towards me.((English is not my first language, and I should mention that there were signs during our talks and online but it’s impossible to write down everything))