Mixed signals during foreplay?

My girlfriend (f25)and I (m24) are having intimacy problems. We work opposite shifts. today I came home for lunch about an hour before she had to work, and she was in bed. I get in behind her to cuddle and we start to heat things up a bit. She mentions that she isn’t wearing panties and grinds up on me a bit here and there. So far so good, but when I reach around to touch her vagina, I get no response. She doesn’t move, open her legs, or make any noises. I get on top of her and try and make out, and she says no because of her morning breath. I try do go down on her and it’s also a no. The moment was gone for me because I felt she wasn’t reciprocating and got into my head over that, but she claims I didn’t do anything to initiate in the first place and was upset that we didn’t have sex. Am I getting mixed signals? Or am I getting hung up on the little things? If your partner doesn’t want you to finger them, give them oral, make out, or make any more of their own moves after they put out a signal like that and get the ball rolling, would you be bothered by it? How might you respond? What else can I do?

Submitted December 19, 2021 at 01:56AM

My girlfriend (f25)and I (m24) are having intimacy problems. We work opposite shifts. today I came home for lunch about an hour before she had to work, and she was in bed. I get in behind her to cuddle and we start to heat things up a bit. She mentions that she isn’t wearing panties and grinds up on me a bit here and there. So far so good, but when I reach around to touch her vagina, I get no response. She doesn’t move, open her legs, or make any noises. I get on top of her and try and make out, and she says no because of her morning breath. I try do go down on her and it’s also a no. The moment was gone for me because I felt she wasn’t reciprocating and got into my head over that, but she claims I didn’t do anything to initiate in the first place and was upset that we didn’t have sex. Am I getting mixed signals? Or am I getting hung up on the little things? If your partner doesn’t want you to finger them, give them oral, make out, or make any more of their own moves after they put out a signal like that and get the ball rolling, would you be bothered by it? How might you respond? What else can I do?