How do I/we deal with my gfs gag reflex while giving a blowjob

My gf has a high sex drive, she’s up for pretty much anything, she’s rarely said no to any sexual activity, heck she’s brought up a lot of things we’ve done. The only issue is she has a really high gag reflex when giving out a blowjob. She never blew a guy before me and believed that a blowjob always involves deep throat. I’ve a decently long but very thick penis and when she tries to deep throat she just ends up feeling gagged and backs off. I never hold her head down or thrust her mouth scared she’ll gag. Also, she likes to blow me, she’s initiated the bj more times than I’ve asked for it. As a way to deal with this, I told her she doesn’t have to go in deep, I asked her to jerk the base while she plays with the head with her mouth. She still goes back to wildly deep throating and gagging herself (maybe that’s from the kind of porn she’s watched?) She would gag if I cum in her mouth without giving out a cue 10 secs in advance too, even then she might. I don’t know if some of it is psychological too as I’ve had cum in her mouth multiple times (big loads too) which wasn’t part of a blowjob and she took it as a champ. She’s given me really good bjs in the past too but they are few and far between. We love having all kinds of sex minus bjs which she “equally wants to like giving as well” (her words) Does anyone else have an issue like this? How did you deal with it? Anything that I can do as a guy to make it easier? I was never into crazy deep throat bjs where the guy pumps it hard into the girls mouth (like most porn these days) but we would want to eventually enjoy it without worrying about her gagging or choking. Any advice is welcome!

TL;DR: My gf feels gag reflex when giving bj and deep throats by default, looking for any advice to make it more enjoyable

Submitted December 19, 2021 at 12:54AM

My gf has a high sex drive, she’s up for pretty much anything, she’s rarely said no to any sexual activity, heck she’s brought up a lot of things we’ve done. The only issue is she has a really high gag reflex when giving out a blowjob. She never blew a guy before me and believed that a blowjob always involves deep throat. I’ve a decently long but very thick penis and when she tries to deep throat she just ends up feeling gagged and backs off. I never hold her head down or thrust her mouth scared she’ll gag. Also, she likes to blow me, she’s initiated the bj more times than I’ve asked for it. As a way to deal with this, I told her she doesn’t have to go in deep, I asked her to jerk the base while she plays with the head with her mouth. She still goes back to wildly deep throating and gagging herself (maybe that’s from the kind of porn she’s watched?) She would gag if I cum in her mouth without giving out a cue 10 secs in advance too, even then she might. I don’t know if some of it is psychological too as I’ve had cum in her mouth multiple times (big loads too) which wasn’t part of a blowjob and she took it as a champ. She’s given me really good bjs in the past too but they are few and far between. We love having all kinds of sex minus bjs which she “equally wants to like giving as well” (her words) Does anyone else have an issue like this? How did you deal with it? Anything that I can do as a guy to make it easier? I was never into crazy deep throat bjs where the guy pumps it hard into the girls mouth (like most porn these days) but we would want to eventually enjoy it without worrying about her gagging or choking. Any advice is welcome!TL;DR: My gf feels gag reflex when giving bj and deep throats by default, looking for any advice to make it more enjoyable