/u/arodynamic_ace on Trans lesbian here, feeling lost.

‘ello. i am the very wise asexual teen that knows a shit load about asexuality. it sounds like you’re asexual and homoromantic, woo !! or not, it depends.

asexual, probably. i experience the same thing as an indifferent and neutral asexual* (more info below) so take that as you will. i am also trans but i dunno if i’ve dealt with depersonalization specifically, despite dealing with some type dissociation before. either way, being trans or dealing with depersonalization does not mean you’re asexual but you probs already knew that. it could contribute to it maybe but i don’t believe that shit does anything to your sexuality.

either way, you can get love. there’s plenty of asexuals who have romantic attraction and pursue that kinda cuddly shit but you could also be aro and experience sensual/alterous/platonic/etc attraction** and whatnot.

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*there’s several types of repulsion and general thoughts on sex.

repulsion (thoughts on you having sex):

sex repulsed - does not want sex

sex indifferent - doesn’t care

sex favorable - would like sex

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general thoughts (on people having sex):

sex negative (i think that’s what it’s called lmao) - yucky sex

sex neutral - whatever

sex positive - y’all bang? nice

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**the shit i listed are called tertiary attractions. i’ve experienced it and read a lot about it so here’s another list:

sensual attraction - deals with the 5 senses, mostly touch. so, for example: wanting to physically touch a specific someone or gender.

alterous - the in between to platonic and romantic attraction. it’s like wanting to date someone but if they didn’t want to then you wouldn’t push it. like your indifference to sex

platonic - wanting to be friends with someone, probably. the lines between romantic and platonic feelings are extremely blurred but i feel like if you wanted to pursue a romantic relationship then it’s probs romantic attraction.

aesthetic - how visually appealing someone is to you (super self explanatory)

queerplatonic - the want to have a QPR (queerplatonic relationship which is like having a partner but with a different label) with someone in particular

all of these attractions overlap and create these different sections, like how romantic attraction can be a mixture of platonic and sensual attraction (this is just an example, i’m aro so i wouldn’t know lmao)

you can use this info however you like. i just got bored and wrote it all





November 16, 2021 at 11:36PM
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