How long should I wait for exclusivity?

I (18F) recently started seeing this guy (20M) that I met on tinder. Our first date was really random and straightforward. He asked if I was free one night and we went to a concert. He took me straight home afterwards and that was it. I had a pretty decent time. We were consistently texting for days after when I asked if he wanted to see each other again. He said yeah and we went to movie. It was pretty early in the day when the movie finished and we ended up going back to his place and spending the rest of the day there. We mainly just talked and hung out, very wholesome. I didn’t end up leaving until midnight. Ever since then we’ve been consistently seeing each other and basically spending our entire days together. It feels like we’ve known each other for so long but in actuality we’ve only hung out about 5 times. 4 of those times we spent at least 8 hours together. We get along really well, he’s super sweet. This is the first time I’ve consistently seen someone. I’m not sure how long I should wait before asking about exclusivity. I’ve cut off all of the guys I was talking to and deleted all of the apps I was using. I feel that it might be unfair of me to ask him to do the same so early on but again, we’ve been spending a lot of time together. How should I go about mentioning being exclusive?

tldr: been seeing this guy in reality not that long but feels like a long time since we spend many hours of our day together. Wondering when should I pop the exclusivity question.



Submitted November 17, 2021 at 12:02AM

I (18F) recently started seeing this guy (20M) that I met on tinder. Our first date was really random and straightforward. He asked if I was free one night and we went to a concert. He took me straight home afterwards and that was it. I had a pretty decent time. We were consistently texting for days after when I asked if he wanted to see each other again. He said yeah and we went to movie. It was pretty early in the day when the movie finished and we ended up going back to his place and spending the rest of the day there. We mainly just talked and hung out, very wholesome. I didn’t end up leaving until midnight. Ever since then we’ve been consistently seeing each other and basically spending our entire days together. It feels like we’ve known each other for so long but in actuality we’ve only hung out about 5 times. 4 of those times we spent at least 8 hours together. We get along really well, he’s super sweet. This is the first time I’ve consistently seen someone. I’m not sure how long I should wait before asking about exclusivity. I’ve cut off all of the guys I was talking to and deleted all of the apps I was using. I feel that it might be unfair of me to ask him to do the same so early on but again, we’ve been spending a lot of time together. How should I go about mentioning being exclusive?tldr: been seeing this guy in reality not that long but feels like a long time since we spend many hours of our day together. Wondering when should I pop the exclusivity question.
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