Need help with a girl

I (21m) need some help about a situation and I don't know what to do anymore.  I'm going to explain the story between me and her (25f) and I want to know what I should to do.

There is a girl I met 3 years ago. My mother and her mother knew each other and that's how we got to know each other.  In short, there was a connection when we first met and we talked a lot when we went out. We didn't go out on dates, it was just the four of us. There were two reasons why I hadn't suggested going on a date.  She was always came late when the four of us met or she didn't come at all. This resulted in fear of getting stood up. The second reason was that at a time when I was still mentally going through a breakup and I didn't like going out with anyone. I did eventually had a date with her, but more on that later.

Over a year later, I saw that I was not happy with my situation in my life. I didn't have many friends anymore and was stuck in the past (if that makes sense). I was going through some kind of depression and I had to change that. I reconnected with some old friends and started making new ones as well. Some of these friends I also have in common with her. (You'll see why this is important later.) After that, I also told her how I felt about her and asked if she'd like to try going on a date.  She said she had the same feelings for me but didn't want to be a couple, she didn't tell me why and I felt it wasn't for me to ask. Until then we only went out between the two of us and she was stressed AF but didn't tell me why and we never actually went on dates again but we still kept in touch. The problem is, when I talk to a girl in a friend group and she's in it, she does get jealous, which is evident in her facial expression and the way she'll talk to me afterwards.

My question is I don't know what to do. I have feelings for her and so do she, but she won't try. When I talks to a girl, even in a non-romantic way, she gets jealous even if she tries to hide it.

Thank you all for you time and sorry for the long post. 🥔

Submitted November 24, 2021 at 12:13AM

I (21m) need some help about a situation and I don't know what to do anymore.  I'm going to explain the story between me and her (25f) and I want to know what I should to do.There is a girl I met 3 years ago. My mother and her mother knew each other and that's how we got to know each other.  In short, there was a connection when we first met and we talked a lot when we went out. We didn't go out on dates, it was just the four of us. There were two reasons why I hadn't suggested going on a date.  She was always came late when the four of us met or she didn't come at all. This resulted in fear of getting stood up. The second reason was that at a time when I was still mentally going through a breakup and I didn't like going out with anyone. I did eventually had a date with her, but more on that later.Over a year later, I saw that I was not happy with my situation in my life. I didn't have many friends anymore and was stuck in the past (if that makes sense). I was going through some kind of depression and I had to change that. I reconnected with some old friends and started making new ones as well. Some of these friends I also have in common with her. (You'll see why this is important later.) After that, I also told her how I felt about her and asked if she'd like to try going on a date.  She said she had the same feelings for me but didn't want to be a couple, she didn't tell me why and I felt it wasn't for me to ask. Until then we only went out between the two of us and she was stressed AF but didn't tell me why and we never actually went on dates again but we still kept in touch. The problem is, when I talk to a girl in a friend group and she's in it, she does get jealous, which is evident in her facial expression and the way she'll talk to me afterwards.My question is I don't know what to do. I have feelings for her and so do she, but she won't try. When I talks to a girl, even in a non-romantic way, she gets jealous even if she tries to hide it.Thank you all for you time and sorry for the long post. 🥔