All I want for christmas is ... a girlfriend.

I am in my mid-20s and still an unkissed virgin. I have been trying to find a girlfriend for a good two years. But I hardly get any likes on platforms like Tinder and Bumble. Most of my dates end with "the evening with you was nice, but the spark is not there". I'm at a loss by now. All I want for christmas is ... a girlfriend.

I can't think of anything else that I could do. I have optimized my photos and even paid for Tinder Premium. Neither has brought much improvement. I don't know what I'm doing wrong on dates. I've tried asking the women for feedback, but have never gotten a useful and honest answer.

Things are no better in real life. My circle of friends and my job in the tech industry are dominated by men. So I signed up for bouldering. But most of the women are already taken.

I don't understand why I have such a hard time finding a partner.

I'm certainly not a handsome man, I had to learn that the hard way on Tinder. I've tried chadfishing. Suddenly I had more than enough matches and the women wouldn't have been averse to a first date at their house. While I always have to keep the chat alive with questions and come up with a creative date idea.

On the other hand, I am not ugly, I would rate myself as mediocre. In any case, not worse than all the men who stroll happily with their girlfriend over the Christmas market. In addition, I am interested in many things, according to my degree not completely stupid and earn quite well. But all that doesn't seem to be enough for women nowadays. No woman has shown interest in me yet. Although my standards are not high. I don't want a model, just an intelligent and slightly nerdy woman who feels like going to the theater with me, cooking and watching Netflix.

Do you have any more ideas to make my dream come true? Or is anyone in the same situation?

TLDR: Kissless Virigin (25). No luck on Tinder. No luck in real life. Dont know why.

Submitted November 24, 2021 at 01:06AM

I am in my mid-20s and still an unkissed virgin. I have been trying to find a girlfriend for a good two years. But I hardly get any likes on platforms like Tinder and Bumble. Most of my dates end with "the evening with you was nice, but the spark is not there". I'm at a loss by now. All I want for christmas is ... a girlfriend.I can't think of anything else that I could do. I have optimized my photos and even paid for Tinder Premium. Neither has brought much improvement. I don't know what I'm doing wrong on dates. I've tried asking the women for feedback, but have never gotten a useful and honest answer.Things are no better in real life. My circle of friends and my job in the tech industry are dominated by men. So I signed up for bouldering. But most of the women are already taken.I don't understand why I have such a hard time finding a partner.I'm certainly not a handsome man, I had to learn that the hard way on Tinder. I've tried chadfishing. Suddenly I had more than enough matches and the women wouldn't have been averse to a first date at their house. While I always have to keep the chat alive with questions and come up with a creative date idea.On the other hand, I am not ugly, I would rate myself as mediocre. In any case, not worse than all the men who stroll happily with their girlfriend over the Christmas market. In addition, I am interested in many things, according to my degree not completely stupid and earn quite well. But all that doesn't seem to be enough for women nowadays. No woman has shown interest in me yet. Although my standards are not high. I don't want a model, just an intelligent and slightly nerdy woman who feels like going to the theater with me, cooking and watching Netflix.Do you have any more ideas to make my dream come true? Or is anyone in the same situation?TLDR: Kissless Virigin (25). No luck on Tinder. No luck in real life. Dont know why.