I can’t cum.

(Tldr: I can’t cum at all - tried everything and it doesn’t work but I really want to. Any advice or tips?)

Hey so this is on a throwaway account cause duh - the title says it all, I can’t cum. This is a bit of a long post I guess and trigger warning for some bits

I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little while now and he keeps trying to help me finish but it never really works. I really like it when he touches me and I also really like when we do piv but I just can’t get over the edge with it I guess.

I think it has something to do with my last long term relationship - I got raped a lot by the guy I was with when I was 15-17 and I’m still recovering. My boyfriend knows about all of it so he’s been really patient but I feel like I’m letting him down when I can’t finish.

I get flashbacks to my ex boyfriend and I think that might be throwing me off - I can see his face and I’m reminded of the way he touched me. Yuck.

I’ve tried masturbating by myself but I still don’t think I’m cumming. I’ve tried everything: avoiding masturbation and building myself up, vibrators and porn but nothing pushes me over the edge with it.

My boyfriend’s tried touching my clit and giving me head but it just doesn’t feel the same as when I do it and even then it’s not enough to finish.

My bf always finishes but I can see in his face that he’s disappointed when I don’t cum too.

Has anyone got any advice??



Submitted November 19, 2021 at 12:36AM

(Tldr: I can’t cum at all - tried everything and it doesn’t work but I really want to. Any advice or tips?)Hey so this is on a throwaway account cause duh - the title says it all, I can’t cum. This is a bit of a long post I guess and trigger warning for some bitsI’ve been with my boyfriend for a little while now and he keeps trying to help me finish but it never really works. I really like it when he touches me and I also really like when we do piv but I just can’t get over the edge with it I guess.I think it has something to do with my last long term relationship - I got raped a lot by the guy I was with when I was 15-17 and I’m still recovering. My boyfriend knows about all of it so he’s been really patient but I feel like I’m letting him down when I can’t finish.I get flashbacks to my ex boyfriend and I think that might be throwing me off - I can see his face and I’m reminded of the way he touched me. Yuck.I’ve tried masturbating by myself but I still don’t think I’m cumming. I’ve tried everything: avoiding masturbation and building myself up, vibrators and porn but nothing pushes me over the edge with it.My boyfriend’s tried touching my clit and giving me head but it just doesn’t feel the same as when I do it and even then it’s not enough to finish.My bf always finishes but I can see in his face that he’s disappointed when I don’t cum too.Has anyone got any advice??
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