How do I go about this?

So my ex broke up with me a few weeks ago. She said it’s because she wants us to grow individually and work on ourselves so we can get back together later on. But she’s said this after she got a new job, started her masters (new year not with the same people), and got new friends. She started speaking to me less and not wanting to ft as much. She knows I have anxiety and when she lied to me about being too busy to text me all day and she hasn’t been on her phone, I had seen her posts on social media throughout the day- so obviously she was lying, I had said to her it’s okay if you don’t message I just want to make sure you’re okay because this is the longest you hadn’t messaged me. When I bought this up to her she broke up with me stating the previous reason of us needing to grow. Since then she’s changed how she looks and is constantly posting on social media (where she follows all her new friends) her captions are a little flirtatious. She also said her friend was happier when she broke up with her boyfriend so she wanted to see how it’d affect her. She’s done some hurtful things in the past and always told me not to give up on us but the first chance she gets she breaks up with me when everything in her life was good but me. I’m not sure if I should continue waiting for her while healing or move on? I still love her and maybe she will be able to change, as well as myself. But her reasoning really threw me off especially when it was me going through rough times, she says she loves me a lot and wants to be with me soon but I’m not sure if her actions align! I’m so confused and would like some clarity! Please ask me any questions that you have

-we dated for 6 months.

-we share the same friend group so we still hang out.

-W/W relationship. Young 20s

-TL;DR she broke up with me saying we need to grow but still wants to be with me in the future. Do I stay or do I go?



Submitted November 03, 2021 at 12:02AM

So my ex broke up with me a few weeks ago. She said it’s because she wants us to grow individually and work on ourselves so we can get back together later on. But she’s said this after she got a new job, started her masters (new year not with the same people), and got new friends. She started speaking to me less and not wanting to ft as much. She knows I have anxiety and when she lied to me about being too busy to text me all day and she hasn’t been on her phone, I had seen her posts on social media throughout the day- so obviously she was lying, I had said to her it’s okay if you don’t message I just want to make sure you’re okay because this is the longest you hadn’t messaged me. When I bought this up to her she broke up with me stating the previous reason of us needing to grow. Since then she’s changed how she looks and is constantly posting on social media (where she follows all her new friends) her captions are a little flirtatious. She also said her friend was happier when she broke up with her boyfriend so she wanted to see how it’d affect her. She’s done some hurtful things in the past and always told me not to give up on us but the first chance she gets she breaks up with me when everything in her life was good but me. I’m not sure if I should continue waiting for her while healing or move on? I still love her and maybe she will be able to change, as well as myself. But her reasoning really threw me off especially when it was me going through rough times, she says she loves me a lot and wants to be with me soon but I’m not sure if her actions align! I’m so confused and would like some clarity! Please ask me any questions that you have-we dated for 6 months.-we share the same friend group so we still hang out.-W/W relationship. Young 20s-TL;DR she broke up with me saying we need to grow but still wants to be with me in the future. Do I stay or do I go?
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