Am I [F29] being too picky?

I'm a 29 year old (well, 30 next week) lesbian who yet again hit "no more profiles in your area" on four dating apps with no matches. I've had three dates in the past three years. Yes, partially due to covid, but I was swiping on apps for a lot of that. What I can't tell is if maybe I'm being too picky on apps as I do get liked by plenty of women, just no one I'm interested in. I did have a two month thing with a woman earlier this year who hit all of my boxes but was incredibly boring and could not hold a conversation about anything more in depth than what we did that day and I just couldn't stay interested in her.

I am looking for a woman ages 26-33 who is not married or partnered, monogamous, doesn't smoke cigarettes, whose profile doesn't make weed the center of their life, not obese, not a single mom, and doesn't have a pit bull. I'm not really into either super femme or super butch women. I'm attracted to women in between but I do try to swipe on women who aren't my physical type if I like what their profile says.

The already married/partnered or non-monogamous thing is my biggest deal breaker and something I am 100% unwilling to compromise on, but every other profile seems to be a married woman looking for women to date on the side or someone identified as ethically non-monogamous. I would be okay with dating a single mom in a few years, but I feel like I'm too young for that currently and am moving away from the area in 1.5 years so also think that would be a bad idea. As for the pit bull thing, I have past dog trauma due to being attacked three times at different points in my life. I'm fine with pit bulls on leashes but can't be comfortable in a house with them so I don't attempt to date someone who owns one. Its taken me years to be okay with being around any type of dog off a leash, so I don't really care how nice you say your pit bull is, its not fair to me, you or the dog to try and make it work at this point.

The women who like me on apps tend to be in the 19-22 year old or 40+ year old ranges, partnered, non-monogamous, or obsessed with weed. Am I being too picky? Or just having bad luck and should keep up with my standards and keep my fingers crossed I will eventually meet someone?

Submitted November 13, 2021 at 12:11AM

I'm a 29 year old (well, 30 next week) lesbian who yet again hit "no more profiles in your area" on four dating apps with no matches. I've had three dates in the past three years. Yes, partially due to covid, but I was swiping on apps for a lot of that. What I can't tell is if maybe I'm being too picky on apps as I do get liked by plenty of women, just no one I'm interested in. I did have a two month thing with a woman earlier this year who hit all of my boxes but was incredibly boring and could not hold a conversation about anything more in depth than what we did that day and I just couldn't stay interested in her.I am looking for a woman ages 26-33 who is not married or partnered, monogamous, doesn't smoke cigarettes, whose profile doesn't make weed the center of their life, not obese, not a single mom, and doesn't have a pit bull. I'm not really into either super femme or super butch women. I'm attracted to women in between but I do try to swipe on women who aren't my physical type if I like what their profile says.The already married/partnered or non-monogamous thing is my biggest deal breaker and something I am 100% unwilling to compromise on, but every other profile seems to be a married woman looking for women to date on the side or someone identified as ethically non-monogamous. I would be okay with dating a single mom in a few years, but I feel like I'm too young for that currently and am moving away from the area in 1.5 years so also think that would be a bad idea. As for the pit bull thing, I have past dog trauma due to being attacked three times at different points in my life. I'm fine with pit bulls on leashes but can't be comfortable in a house with them so I don't attempt to date someone who owns one. Its taken me years to be okay with being around any type of dog off a leash, so I don't really care how nice you say your pit bull is, its not fair to me, you or the dog to try and make it work at this point.The women who like me on apps tend to be in the 19-22 year old or 40+ year old ranges, partnered, non-monogamous, or obsessed with weed. Am I being too picky? Or just having bad luck and should keep up with my standards and keep my fingers crossed I will eventually meet someone?