I like him but my gut is telling me to leave

It's only been 5 weeks if you wanna be exact. Been official for 2.

He's nice and he's very smart. He is objectively a catch. And cute. And tall. But this isn't the relationship I want. He gives me the ick a lot and frankly I don't know if I fancy him anymore? I certainly enjoy spending time with him, but it's almost like a friend? He is on the spectrum and probably can't always help it, but he misses so many cues and I want someone who gets them. He'll rarely vocalise his feelings (I love being complimented and I compliment him ALL the time). He won't so much as send a heart emoji every now and again. He never texts good night. I'm a pretty small (110lbs) woman and he has watched me struggle and drop bags of shopping before and won't offer to help. He might just chuckle. I have to ask explicitly. He also forgets to say thank you a lot when I pay for stuff. Really grinds my gears. He also makes me cringe a lot. He can be quite opinionated on Twitter and the like and overshares about sex and shares sex memes. He is much more adventurous sexually- has had a threesome, likes pegging, wants to try tying me up (he is nice about it and promises he won't be annoyed but I have zero interest and that won't change). I'm scared to let people know his real name in case they see his Twitter as I'm ashamed. I never thought I'd date someone so public.

We're having our first sleepover tomorrow and I'm looking forward to the cuddles and playing video games together but idk? I feel like he doesn't "deserve" to be broken up with. Any guy I've ever rejected before I had some valid reason like they were shady but with him I just don't like him enough?



Submitted October 19, 2021 at 12:01AM

It's only been 5 weeks if you wanna be exact. Been official for 2.He's nice and he's very smart. He is objectively a catch. And cute. And tall. But this isn't the relationship I want. He gives me the ick a lot and frankly I don't know if I fancy him anymore? I certainly enjoy spending time with him, but it's almost like a friend? He is on the spectrum and probably can't always help it, but he misses so many cues and I want someone who gets them. He'll rarely vocalise his feelings (I love being complimented and I compliment him ALL the time). He won't so much as send a heart emoji every now and again. He never texts good night. I'm a pretty small (110lbs) woman and he has watched me struggle and drop bags of shopping before and won't offer to help. He might just chuckle. I have to ask explicitly. He also forgets to say thank you a lot when I pay for stuff. Really grinds my gears. He also makes me cringe a lot. He can be quite opinionated on Twitter and the like and overshares about sex and shares sex memes. He is much more adventurous sexually- has had a threesome, likes pegging, wants to try tying me up (he is nice about it and promises he won't be annoyed but I have zero interest and that won't change). I'm scared to let people know his real name in case they see his Twitter as I'm ashamed. I never thought I'd date someone so public.We're having our first sleepover tomorrow and I'm looking forward to the cuddles and playing video games together but idk? I feel like he doesn't "deserve" to be broken up with. Any guy I've ever rejected before I had some valid reason like they were shady but with him I just don't like him enough?
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