Autistic female and dating?

Hi, I am autistic and young adult female. I have trouble when it comes to men. Men are the complete opposite of women.

I am autistic and it is even harder especially since it is hard for me to read body language, facial expressions, and etc. I am a very honest person and blunt.

People have told me I am very sweet and not malicious. I am extremely short as well like 4'7 tall height. I like to dress in clothing styles I am into. Saddly people judge you easily. I like pastel colors and pink. I like girly things as well. I wear natural makeup like powder and eyeliner with mascara and lipgloss. I can wear eyeshadow because my eyes burn and my skin is very sensitive. It has been said this is very common with autistic females since we have sensitivies.

My family never had problems finding dates. But the men in my family have always been picky when it comes to women. They like them sexy, smart, strong, mature, motherly, very smart, and etc. Which is something I always struggled with especially since I was born 4-5 months prematurely and I am autistic.

People always want to date someone who is better than them. Sadly, people are very picky when it comes to a partner and there is nothing wrong with this. I love myself but it is hard for me to see if a man would like to date me and love me. Ive been doing a lot of volunteer and going to school. But society in the dating world especially in the USA is very picky.

Men in my family are very handsome so they never had problems getting girls. And when I see the type of women they are into like my mom and my family. It is too much! They are prettier, taller, smarter, and etc. They got it! I know I should not compare myself but it is hard for me to see if I will ever have a date or get married.

Most men in my family like white and blondes. And I as a brunette never understood why but that is how some people prefferences are.

I had crushes but I was always rejected. Even when I was younger people at my school would laugh at me. Many did not want to be my friends. Guys were always laughing at me but I never understood why.

This is very common for women with autism I guess. Sometimes I feel being autistic is a curse. I love myself but it is a curse. I do my best to immitate others but I never fit in.

However my family and authorities like my boss and instructors love me. I am tired how I have to change a lot to be like others. People tell me improve yourself. I have imrpoved and I am still improving myself. But I see things differently than others.

A lot of people like to talk to me. Most of them are women but men never seem to be interested. I can talk to men easily but men make it harder. Men are way different than women. It is easy for me to understand how women communicate and explain to me things but I have a hard to time understanding men.

Many men are interested in hot and smart women. Thats what I see around me. Just like I do not want women to change a men why should I as girl change for a men. I love myself and I think I am pretty.

My parents told me I have strengths and weaknesses and I am smart and pretty. They tell me I am different but not less because I am autistic. For many women it is a hard world out there for socialising, friends, romance, employment, and etc.

Sometimes I fear wanting to date men and having crushes. My hormones and my brain wants a guy like a relationship and a bestfriend.

But because romance is a very high expectation sometimes I do doubt myself.

I know no one can answer this but can everyone give me an advice? Do you think that a autistic women can be in relationships? Will a man accept me or do I have to be a lottery ticket (goodlooking, smart, and etc.) to be in a relationship?

Submitted September 07, 2021 at 12:06AM

Hi, I am autistic and young adult female. I have trouble when it comes to men. Men are the complete opposite of women.I am autistic and it is even harder especially since it is hard for me to read body language, facial expressions, and etc. I am a very honest person and blunt.People have told me I am very sweet and not malicious. I am extremely short as well like 4'7 tall height. I like to dress in clothing styles I am into. Saddly people judge you easily. I like pastel colors and pink. I like girly things as well. I wear natural makeup like powder and eyeliner with mascara and lipgloss. I can wear eyeshadow because my eyes burn and my skin is very sensitive. It has been said this is very common with autistic females since we have sensitivies.My family never had problems finding dates. But the men in my family have always been picky when it comes to women. They like them sexy, smart, strong, mature, motherly, very smart, and etc. Which is something I always struggled with especially since I was born 4-5 months prematurely and I am autistic.People always want to date someone who is better than them. Sadly, people are very picky when it comes to a partner and there is nothing wrong with this. I love myself but it is hard for me to see if a man would like to date me and love me. Ive been doing a lot of volunteer and going to school. But society in the dating world especially in the USA is very picky.Men in my family are very handsome so they never had problems getting girls. And when I see the type of women they are into like my mom and my family. It is too much! They are prettier, taller, smarter, and etc. They got it! I know I should not compare myself but it is hard for me to see if I will ever have a date or get married.Most men in my family like white and blondes. And I as a brunette never understood why but that is how some people prefferences are.I had crushes but I was always rejected. Even when I was younger people at my school would laugh at me. Many did not want to be my friends. Guys were always laughing at me but I never understood why.This is very common for women with autism I guess. Sometimes I feel being autistic is a curse. I love myself but it is a curse. I do my best to immitate others but I never fit in.However my family and authorities like my boss and instructors love me. I am tired how I have to change a lot to be like others. People tell me improve yourself. I have imrpoved and I am still improving myself. But I see things differently than others.A lot of people like to talk to me. Most of them are women but men never seem to be interested. I can talk to men easily but men make it harder. Men are way different than women. It is easy for me to understand how women communicate and explain to me things but I have a hard to time understanding men.Many men are interested in hot and smart women. Thats what I see around me. Just like I do not want women to change a men why should I as girl change for a men. I love myself and I think I am pretty.My parents told me I have strengths and weaknesses and I am smart and pretty. They tell me I am different but not less because I am autistic. For many women it is a hard world out there for socialising, friends, romance, employment, and etc.Sometimes I fear wanting to date men and having crushes. My hormones and my brain wants a guy like a relationship and a bestfriend.But because romance is a very high expectation sometimes I do doubt myself.I know no one can answer this but can everyone give me an advice? Do you think that a autistic women can be in relationships? Will a man accept me or do I have to be a lottery ticket (goodlooking, smart, and etc.) to be in a relationship?