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Well I’m generally not the one to look for advice since I usually figure it out on my own but I’ve been stressed over a girl for no reason. Im one of those overthinkers late at night and lose sleep because of stupid thoughts. Basically heres the scenario: Me and this girl talked for about a month, we both like each other but because of quarantine and other things that such as stressed/busy with personal things i wanted some space between us and decided to stop being the one to constantly hit her up. 1 week pass and then she asks me a question about something work related, i answer and thats it. I decide to hit her up during the summer and ask her a few questions. She ignored all of them exceot answering the “how are you”. Fastforward i wish her a happy birthday and she has left me on delivered. Ive been stressed because i have been emotional and lonely lately for some odd reason, i normally don’t do this over people but idk. I cant be overthinking this and say she just doesn’t want to talk rn but i mean if she was still interested wouldnt she respond back.(Context:This is a girl i knew for awhile and was friends with and didnt expect us to become more than friends). I have dated a few girls but now that im feeling emotional and i just want someone to talk to that i really like, its become a pain in the ass. I guess i need to figure it out on my own. I probably sound really desperate to talk to some smh i need something to take my mind off of everything. Any words of advice im interested in what yall think.



Submitted October 23, 2020 at 12:07AM

AdviceWell I’m generally not the one to look for advice since I usually figure it out on my own but I’ve been stressed over a girl for no reason. Im one of those overthinkers late at night and lose sleep because of stupid thoughts. Basically heres the scenario: Me and this girl talked for about a month, we both like each other but because of quarantine and other things that such as stressed/busy with personal things i wanted some space between us and decided to stop being the one to constantly hit her up. 1 week pass and then she asks me a question about something work related, i answer and thats it. I decide to hit her up during the summer and ask her a few questions. She ignored all of them exceot answering the “how are you”. Fastforward i wish her a happy birthday and she has left me on delivered. Ive been stressed because i have been emotional and lonely lately for some odd reason, i normally don’t do this over people but idk. I cant be overthinking this and say she just doesn’t want to talk rn but i mean if she was still interested wouldnt she respond back.(Context:This is a girl i knew for awhile and was friends with and didnt expect us to become more than friends). I have dated a few girls but now that im feeling emotional and i just want someone to talk to that i really like, its become a pain in the ass. I guess i need to figure it out on my own. I probably sound really desperate to talk to some smh i need something to take my mind off of everything. Any words of advice im interested in what yall think.
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