"There is no back door into the relationship you want, so take the front door..."

I read that quote somewhere today while I spiraled in and out of some anxiety but it really resonated with me. My situationship of one year is coming to a fork in the road and I'm ready to take the front door.

I(31F) met someone about a year ago, was pretty freshly separated and still living with my ex husband at the time. Also, at the time, I wasn't in a place to be dating more than casually, a way to have fun and an easy self-esteem boost if you will. Fast forward through many ups and downs on the slow road and here we are. He has been able to give me what I want everytime I have asked for more but this time is different because if he can't do it I am walking away.

Last night we watched an episode of hot girls wanted called Love Me Tinder and it triggered me bad. I was so irritated by the whole thing and quickly identified why it bothered me so much. It made my lines feel blurred and I need to set some clearer boundaries which I imagine to be a bit of a choose your own adventure book at this point so here is my plan:

A) I want to be exclusive and committed and explore this space with you to its fullest potential. Do you want that too? Yes! Great! I'm thrilled you feel the same. Nothing will change except that we will no longer be using the apps and will focus on each other only. Super fun sex session to follow.

B) I want to be exclusive and commited and explore this space with you to its fullest potential. Do you want that too? No? I respect your decision and admire your ability to set boundaries. It really bums me out because it isn't what I wanted to happen but I understand and wish you the best. Super fun solo sex session to follow...or a pint of ben and jerrys...or 50 burpees. whatever feels right FOR ME MYSELF AND I lol

I have some doubts about him but the only way through it for me is to experience it and in order to do that I need be able to go all in and not feel like i have to hold back on my expectations and voicing my needs for fear of rocking our little undefined boat. There is private yacht potential here and I'm tryna climb aboard if there's room for two.

In the front door, out the front door with my self-worth, happiness and dignity intact.

Have you been in my place...how did it go for you? If you're feeling unsure, do it!!!



Submitted July 01, 2020 at 11:34PM

I read that quote somewhere today while I spiraled in and out of some anxiety but it really resonated with me. My situationship of one year is coming to a fork in the road and I'm ready to take the front door.I(31F) met someone about a year ago, was pretty freshly separated and still living with my ex husband at the time. Also, at the time, I wasn't in a place to be dating more than casually, a way to have fun and an easy self-esteem boost if you will. Fast forward through many ups and downs on the slow road and here we are. He has been able to give me what I want everytime I have asked for more but this time is different because if he can't do it I am walking away.Last night we watched an episode of hot girls wanted called Love Me Tinder and it triggered me bad. I was so irritated by the whole thing and quickly identified why it bothered me so much. It made my lines feel blurred and I need to set some clearer boundaries which I imagine to be a bit of a choose your own adventure book at this point so here is my plan:A) I want to be exclusive and committed and explore this space with you to its fullest potential. Do you want that too? Yes! Great! I'm thrilled you feel the same. Nothing will change except that we will no longer be using the apps and will focus on each other only. Super fun sex session to follow.B) I want to be exclusive and commited and explore this space with you to its fullest potential. Do you want that too? No? I respect your decision and admire your ability to set boundaries. It really bums me out because it isn't what I wanted to happen but I understand and wish you the best. Super fun solo sex session to follow...or a pint of ben and jerrys...or 50 burpees. whatever feels right FOR ME MYSELF AND I lolI have some doubts about him but the only way through it for me is to experience it and in order to do that I need be able to go all in and not feel like i have to hold back on my expectations and voicing my needs for fear of rocking our little undefined boat. There is private yacht potential here and I'm tryna climb aboard if there's room for two.In the front door, out the front door with my self-worth, happiness and dignity intact.Have you been in my place...how did it go for you? If you're feeling unsure, do it!!!
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