Having a tough time getting past my gf lying about her most recent ex a couples times early in our relationship.

My gf and I had a couple very open and loose discussions about our past exes and hookups where we were both laughing and commiserating together. He was never mentioned but I figured whatever no ones entitled to know anything the other doesn't want to share. Very early on she told me she's never dated anyone she worked with but Literally two days later I walk into her room for the first time and there's still pictures of them hanging on her wall. She comes clean and just says she didn't want me knowing they were dating? I was a little taken back but no one's perfect so I looked past it. Then a couple weeks later I found out they're still not only texting, but she said they got into a fight. After I saw pictures of them still hanging up I asked if they are still talking and she said she cut him off months ago and she hasn't heard from him since, which obviously was a lie.

I dont want to be vain or conceited, but this guy is 15 years older than her and not really attractive nor does he seem like a god dude from what she's said. You can see from my post history I'm in pretty good shape, so to be totally honest (I know this is vain and shitty), the only reason I haven't really broken things off with her is because I don't feel threatened by him, but at the end of the day she's already lied to my face multiple times about him, and I PROMISED myself after my last relationship i would never let another girl lie to my face ever again.

Has anyone gone through something like this before?

tl;dr: my gf is lying about her ex, but I don't feel threatened by him so I'm allowing my boundaries to be crossed.



Submitted July 01, 2020 at 11:47PM

My gf and I had a couple very open and loose discussions about our past exes and hookups where we were both laughing and commiserating together. He was never mentioned but I figured whatever no ones entitled to know anything the other doesn't want to share. Very early on she told me she's never dated anyone she worked with but Literally two days later I walk into her room for the first time and there's still pictures of them hanging on her wall. She comes clean and just says she didn't want me knowing they were dating? I was a little taken back but no one's perfect so I looked past it. Then a couple weeks later I found out they're still not only texting, but she said they got into a fight. After I saw pictures of them still hanging up I asked if they are still talking and she said she cut him off months ago and she hasn't heard from him since, which obviously was a lie.I dont want to be vain or conceited, but this guy is 15 years older than her and not really attractive nor does he seem like a god dude from what she's said. You can see from my post history I'm in pretty good shape, so to be totally honest (I know this is vain and shitty), the only reason I haven't really broken things off with her is because I don't feel threatened by him, but at the end of the day she's already lied to my face multiple times about him, and I PROMISED myself after my last relationship i would never let another girl lie to my face ever again.Has anyone gone through something like this before?tl;dr: my gf is lying about her ex, but I don't feel threatened by him so I'm allowing my boundaries to be crossed.
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