Oral exhaustion and body image fear.

My gf and I have been together for nearly 2 years so far, and we are very much in love. We also share a great sex life when opportunities allow. We are very open to new things, and will be exploring a lot of very taboo (to some people) things in the future, and I can't wait to see what we end up trying. With that said, she has had some selfish lovers in the past, and that has affected both the way she sees her body, and through that, what she is comfortable with me doing to her. To me, her body is perfect. Curvy, smooth, warm, and hers. I love her, and her body is a part of that. I love giving her oral. And up until recently, she would not let me go anywhere near there with my face. As much as I tried, and though I also didn't push too hard, it just wouldn't happen. This was mostly due to an ex telling her she smelled, and/or didn't taste great. Over the last couple months though, she has been able to see that I absolutely love her smell, her taste, and her feeling on my tongue. Though she still tries to stop me sometimes, and I would if I really thought she wanted me to stop, she does relax and really gets into it. Now she has started saying that me going down on her is one of her favourite things. Hearing her say that really has made me feel good. Part of that through showing my gf that not everyone is an ass, and that there are those of us that like to show the woman we love that their body is amazing and definately deserving of worship. Also, she has finally let go of the worry of cumming while I'm going down. To me, there is no bigger turn on than that. The biggest discovery is that she has said that she gets far more exhausted when orgasming from oral than PIV sex. So tired, that she doesn't want to have sex. Now, I am totally ok with that. I know that she will return the favour to me, and the circle of fun will continue. And cuddling a gorgeous naked woman right after she has orgasmed is one of the nicest and most intimate things. But that raised a couple of questions for me. 1. Gals, do some of you find the same thing? In that oral orgams are more tiring than those from regular sex? As my gf put it to me, she is far more completely worn out from oral. 2. Guys and Gals, when faced with a partner that has very low self esteem about their body, how do you show them that they can let go of the fear that you will reject them? And what do you do if they can never get past that? And in the reverse, how hard is it to get over your own fears with how your partner sees you? I know I am very lucky that I have been able to allay any fear that my gf has about the way I see her. For me patience and love have won out, but I also know that sometimes that isn't enough. I'm also by no means perfect. I carry some extra weight, and could do a lot to be more attractive, but she loves me for me too. Genuinely intersted in all your thoughts and opinions on this.

Submitted May 14, 2020 at 11:43PM

My gf and I have been together for nearly 2 years so far, and we are very much in love. We also share a great sex life when opportunities allow. We are very open to new things, and will be exploring a lot of very taboo (to some people) things in the future, and I can't wait to see what we end up trying. With that said, she has had some selfish lovers in the past, and that has affected both the way she sees her body, and through that, what she is comfortable with me doing to her. To me, her body is perfect. Curvy, smooth, warm, and hers. I love her, and her body is a part of that. I love giving her oral. And up until recently, she would not let me go anywhere near there with my face. As much as I tried, and though I also didn't push too hard, it just wouldn't happen. This was mostly due to an ex telling her she smelled, and/or didn't taste great. Over the last couple months though, she has been able to see that I absolutely love her smell, her taste, and her feeling on my tongue. Though she still tries to stop me sometimes, and I would if I really thought she wanted me to stop, she does relax and really gets into it. Now she has started saying that me going down on her is one of her favourite things. Hearing her say that really has made me feel good. Part of that through showing my gf that not everyone is an ass, and that there are those of us that like to show the woman we love that their body is amazing and definately deserving of worship. Also, she has finally let go of the worry of cumming while I'm going down. To me, there is no bigger turn on than that. The biggest discovery is that she has said that she gets far more exhausted when orgasming from oral than PIV sex. So tired, that she doesn't want to have sex. Now, I am totally ok with that. I know that she will return the favour to me, and the circle of fun will continue. And cuddling a gorgeous naked woman right after she has orgasmed is one of the nicest and most intimate things. But that raised a couple of questions for me. 1. Gals, do some of you find the same thing? In that oral orgams are more tiring than those from regular sex? As my gf put it to me, she is far more completely worn out from oral. 2. Guys and Gals, when faced with a partner that has very low self esteem about their body, how do you show them that they can let go of the fear that you will reject them? And what do you do if they can never get past that? And in the reverse, how hard is it to get over your own fears with how your partner sees you? I know I am very lucky that I have been able to allay any fear that my gf has about the way I see her. For me patience and love have won out, but I also know that sometimes that isn't enough. I'm also by no means perfect. I carry some extra weight, and could do a lot to be more attractive, but she loves me for me too. Genuinely intersted in all your thoughts and opinions on this.