How do I [33/m] stop hating women?

Please don't say "Just go to therapy.". I want some real solutions here

I think I might hate women.

I realize it every time I watch a female streamer. In particular, one was talking about how coming out as Gay and it just made my blood boil. I couldn't stop thinking about how pretty she was, how many guys like her and how she is just breaking all of our hearts.

I feel like my life is just marred by rejection and I am trapped. Women will never like me no matter what. I do all of the right things. I work out, I have a job, I treat them nice. But the bar of attraction is just so high. I need to be fitter, have more money, and most of all be more charming . Its just so hard and they have so many options.

I find myself being nice to my female friends with the hopes that they will like me back, which is what everyone says is the right thing to do....only to be rejected. And like. I'm at the point where I don't even want to be in a relationship anymore.

I can't be truthful around women. I can't be comfortable around them. And I can't vulnerable. Yet everyone says to be myself. Yet, when I am myself, women just get creeped out and angry. This is often because I show that I can experience fear of rejection or insecurity and those are weaknesses.

If I wasn't physically attracted to them, I would probably never talk to them at all. Maybe for professional reasons but never personally. it just never works out. Even female friends, I can never be truly natural around since, when I do , it never ends well. They always end up snapping at me or getting angry and it hurts so much when they do.

I sort of realized this when I was talking to my mother and she said I was kind . And I tried to convince her I am not. I am gross, creepy, and nasty. Women pick up on this easily and act super nasty to me in return.

And like I wasn't always like this. I used to think women were so great. And I'd be so happy when I fell in love and got a gf. But then I actually tried dating. And it was so hurtful. Just heartbreak after heartbreak. And I did everything right. I tried so hard to be the man women wanted and it never worked and just left me alone. and now I'm just so broken and afraid I don't know what to do.



Submitted May 15, 2020 at 12:09AM

Please don't say "Just go to therapy.". I want some real solutions hereI think I might hate women.I realize it every time I watch a female streamer. In particular, one was talking about how coming out as Gay and it just made my blood boil. I couldn't stop thinking about how pretty she was, how many guys like her and how she is just breaking all of our hearts.I feel like my life is just marred by rejection and I am trapped. Women will never like me no matter what. I do all of the right things. I work out, I have a job, I treat them nice. But the bar of attraction is just so high. I need to be fitter, have more money, and most of all be more charming . Its just so hard and they have so many options.I find myself being nice to my female friends with the hopes that they will like me back, which is what everyone says is the right thing to do....only to be rejected. And like. I'm at the point where I don't even want to be in a relationship anymore.I can't be truthful around women. I can't be comfortable around them. And I can't vulnerable. Yet everyone says to be myself. Yet, when I am myself, women just get creeped out and angry. This is often because I show that I can experience fear of rejection or insecurity and those are weaknesses.If I wasn't physically attracted to them, I would probably never talk to them at all. Maybe for professional reasons but never personally. it just never works out. Even female friends, I can never be truly natural around since, when I do , it never ends well. They always end up snapping at me or getting angry and it hurts so much when they do.I sort of realized this when I was talking to my mother and she said I was kind . And I tried to convince her I am not. I am gross, creepy, and nasty. Women pick up on this easily and act super nasty to me in return.And like I wasn't always like this. I used to think women were so great. And I'd be so happy when I fell in love and got a gf. But then I actually tried dating. And it was so hurtful. Just heartbreak after heartbreak. And I did everything right. I tried so hard to be the man women wanted and it never worked and just left me alone. and now I'm just so broken and afraid I don't know what to do.
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