A few years ago, I (18m) met a girl who was perfect for me, she loved fishing, hunting, trucks, cattle, and construction, but at the time I was 14 and she was 16, and I wasn’t into girls. Now that I'm older, though, how can I find another girl like me?

Six years ago, I had a best friend who shared most of the same interests, hobbies, and lifestyle as me. She loved the outdoors just as much as I did, and we bonded in the outdoors while hunting, fishing, kayaking, and snowmobiling. We also bonded while at work, learning about and working on mechanical repairs and maintenance as well as doing manual labor. We were best friends, and I kick myself every time for not realizing that we were perfect for each other. The reason I gave the age of 14 was because that was the last time I saw her, since she had to move down South for a new work opportunity that her father got, but we had known each other and probably been best friends ever since our very first day of preschool, since we both lived in the same town, until she moved. I kick myself every time I think about her, and after she moved away we kind of just disappeared from each other's life, unfortunately.

Now, though, four years after she left, I'm still kicking myself for not realizing our potential. I partially forgive myself, because neither of us were really ready for a relationship, despite how young most people get into a relationship, but I still regret never recognizing it. At this point in my life now, I have never been in a relationship, and with regards to a relationship I feel lost. I don't feel lost in general, but I don't know what to do with regards to finding a relationship. In other words, my life is pretty good, I'm working, I'm getting an education, I have a good family, and we can put food onto the table, so it's not like I feel like a loser without a partner nor that I'm desperate nor that I can't be happy on my own, it's just that I want to find someone to share my life, my happiness, my love, and my hobbies/interests with. But I don't know where to look. I don't know how to find a girl who likes the outdoors and loves to do dirty work, and part of that is because neither of those two things are really that social. I live in Connecticut and plan to go to school in Maine, so I think that makes it even harder, because most people would recommend going down South or the Midwest, but neither of those are very practical options, and I'm not looking to uproot my whole entire life, in that sense anyway, in order to find a romantic relationship, unless that proves to be completely necessary, but even then I'd have a hard time unless there was something promising, if that makes sense.

I would love any and all good advice you can give me, so thank you very, very much.

Tl;dr: A few years ago, I (18m) met a girl who was perfect for me, she loved fishing, hunting, trucks, cattle, and construction, but at the time I was 14 and she was 16, and I wasn’t into girls. Now that I'm older, though, how can I find another girl like me?

Submitted May 28, 2020 at 11:57PM

Six years ago, I had a best friend who shared most of the same interests, hobbies, and lifestyle as me. She loved the outdoors just as much as I did, and we bonded in the outdoors while hunting, fishing, kayaking, and snowmobiling. We also bonded while at work, learning about and working on mechanical repairs and maintenance as well as doing manual labor. We were best friends, and I kick myself every time for not realizing that we were perfect for each other. The reason I gave the age of 14 was because that was the last time I saw her, since she had to move down South for a new work opportunity that her father got, but we had known each other and probably been best friends ever since our very first day of preschool, since we both lived in the same town, until she moved. I kick myself every time I think about her, and after she moved away we kind of just disappeared from each other's life, unfortunately.Now, though, four years after she left, I'm still kicking myself for not realizing our potential. I partially forgive myself, because neither of us were really ready for a relationship, despite how young most people get into a relationship, but I still regret never recognizing it. At this point in my life now, I have never been in a relationship, and with regards to a relationship I feel lost. I don't feel lost in general, but I don't know what to do with regards to finding a relationship. In other words, my life is pretty good, I'm working, I'm getting an education, I have a good family, and we can put food onto the table, so it's not like I feel like a loser without a partner nor that I'm desperate nor that I can't be happy on my own, it's just that I want to find someone to share my life, my happiness, my love, and my hobbies/interests with. But I don't know where to look. I don't know how to find a girl who likes the outdoors and loves to do dirty work, and part of that is because neither of those two things are really that social. I live in Connecticut and plan to go to school in Maine, so I think that makes it even harder, because most people would recommend going down South or the Midwest, but neither of those are very practical options, and I'm not looking to uproot my whole entire life, in that sense anyway, in order to find a romantic relationship, unless that proves to be completely necessary, but even then I'd have a hard time unless there was something promising, if that makes sense.I would love any and all good advice you can give me, so thank you very, very much.Tl;dr: A few years ago, I (18m) met a girl who was perfect for me, she loved fishing, hunting, trucks, cattle, and construction, but at the time I was 14 and she was 16, and I wasn’t into girls. Now that I'm older, though, how can I find another girl like me?