I (F19) am constantly told by strangers, relatives and friends that I am pretty but guys I like don’t really seem to pay any attention

Sorry if this comes across super vain or anything - that’s not my intention. I don’t really see myself as being all that great, but according to others (especially girls or women at the store etc) I am “pretty.” I have some wonderful Male friends who have also said the same thing (they’re not flirting, they’re people who call me “sis” or have girlfriends and are paying a friend a genuine compliment) but it seems like guys don’t actually see me as an option. If anyone catches my eye who I’ve spoken to they don’t really seem to notice me in particular or pay much attention back.

One or two people have mentioned that I must only be single because guys are too intimidated to approach me which was something I’d never really thought about before because I find myself so normal and feel like a totally average person lol... I’m open to getting to know just about anyone and not intimidating at all! How can I tell the difference between people maybe actually being intimidated and them simply not being interested?

I’m reasonably sure I don’t have a repulsive personality or anything and try to be a nice person all of the time. I’m also quite outgoing and friendly, and have a good degree course and a bunch of lovely friends going for me at the moment.

I’m just wondering what to make of the situation - are people interested but I’m just not noticing? Or are people maybe put off by the fact that I’m really petite (5’1) or something oddly specific like that?I genuinely don’t have a clue. I’m just interested to hear some advice and perspectives about how I should be seeing things and approaching situations as I’ve never been more than friends with anyone before. Thanks :)



Submitted April 20, 2020 at 12:05AM

Sorry if this comes across super vain or anything - that’s not my intention. I don’t really see myself as being all that great, but according to others (especially girls or women at the store etc) I am “pretty.” I have some wonderful Male friends who have also said the same thing (they’re not flirting, they’re people who call me “sis” or have girlfriends and are paying a friend a genuine compliment) but it seems like guys don’t actually see me as an option. If anyone catches my eye who I’ve spoken to they don’t really seem to notice me in particular or pay much attention back.One or two people have mentioned that I must only be single because guys are too intimidated to approach me which was something I’d never really thought about before because I find myself so normal and feel like a totally average person lol... I’m open to getting to know just about anyone and not intimidating at all! How can I tell the difference between people maybe actually being intimidated and them simply not being interested?I’m reasonably sure I don’t have a repulsive personality or anything and try to be a nice person all of the time. I’m also quite outgoing and friendly, and have a good degree course and a bunch of lovely friends going for me at the moment.I’m just wondering what to make of the situation - are people interested but I’m just not noticing? Or are people maybe put off by the fact that I’m really petite (5’1) or something oddly specific like that?I genuinely don’t have a clue. I’m just interested to hear some advice and perspectives about how I should be seeing things and approaching situations as I’ve never been more than friends with anyone before. Thanks :)
Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Add Comments, Posts, Links... etc.

Popular posts from this blog

The difference between being right and being understood

My boyfriend and I are 28. We’ve been together for about 1.5 years and recently moved in together. He’s a pretty patient and easygoing person (Type B) whereas I’m more particular (Type A). Of course there are two sides to every trait, and my Type A nature benefits us in some ways too. Like all couples, we have differences in perspective or preference. When this happens, he will usually say something like “I disagree (with your perspective) but fine.” I tend to push the issue in an attempt to get him to understand where I’m coming from. This escalates the disagreement into a fight because he perceives it as me trying to be “right”. I truly just want to be understood (and I want to understand where he’s coming from) so I’m looking for more of a dialogue whereas he avoids conflict and just wants it to be over as quickly as possible. His general approach is “agree to disagree” but that doesn’t make sense to me when it’s an issue that will keep coming up and requires compromise. I’m n...
Read more

My (27f) gf (27f) is getting tired of me not sharing intimate/ personal info about me

I’ve always been extremely private and introverted. We have more than a year together and we’ve been living together for like 6 months, we get along pretty good and I’m really in love with her, however I can not seem to open up... and I can tell it’s frustrating to her by the way she tells me it bothers her that she feels she’s the only one committed and the one that’s always sharing... At this point I don’t even know if it is that I’ve gotten too used to it, to the point I’ve became lazy to talk about myself or give any genuine personal opinion... it sucks, really, I need to communicate better... Where do I start? Tl;dr: I can’t be completely intimate with my gf and its frustrating her, I need to communicate better because I really love her... where to start? Submitted April 25, 2019 at 06:02AM I’ve always been extremely private and introverted. We have more than a year together and we’ve been living together for like 6 months, we get along pretty good and I’m really in love ...
Read more

My (23M) girlfriend (25F) relationship is confusing to me. I might be the problem, or maybe we are just incompatible.

I met my girlfriend after a few serious breakups that led me to change both intentionally and unintentionally over a few years. For better and for worse. She had just gotten out of an engagement with a verbally and physically abusive man who had a cocaine problem. We have been together about 8 months now. We hit it off and spent a lot of time together but she began to push our relationship as if there were a time clock for milestones. I was pressed beyond my comfort zone and went with it because of my affection for her. My living situation fell apart and I lost a few thousand dollars to shit roommates right around the time she and I met and she offered to let me stay with her. I agreed with some resistance. I pay for food, help her with bills, and throw money toward rent while trying to get back on my feet. As long as we have been together she has gotten more possessive, angry, and irrational. She is dealing with shit from her engagement and I feel shes looking for a level of seriou...
Read more