My (20F) suspicions of my boyfriends (21M) fat fetish have been confirmed.

Last night I was using my boyfriend’s browser to search something & when I opened a new tab, the ones behind it displayed images of a very obviously overweight woman. I then went to his search history & upon doing that, found that he searched for “big belly bbw”. Immediately, I confronted him about this, as it makes me extremely uncomfortable.

I am no where close to the size that the women he searched for are. I understand a fantasy but I have seen (before we started dating) nudes on his phone of MUCH larger women. I feel as if he is into fat girls & he is not honest enough with himself to admit that.

I have been with him for 2 years & he has apparently lied to me this entire time about his sexual history. He has told me that he’s had sex with at least 4 people, one of them attractive, the rest I have not seen. Last night, he told me that he’s only had sex with one other person besides me & that she was fat (he lost his virginity to her). Now I don’t know what to believe & why he would change his story upon me finding out. Why is he ashamed?

Frankly, I feel disgusted by this fetish he has. I do not admire the culture surrounding that body type or the “acceptance movement”. You should love yourself & strive to be healthy but clearly his search was geared towards one specific area of the body that shows that person is in an unhealthy state.

We have had problems before this, lying about small things. This is different. I know this is far more than just a kink, it is a fetish. He will not admit to it but I will or will not have to live with this for the rest of my time being with him.

How do I approach something like this? Do I let go & let him experience this? I feel like I don’t know what to believe anymore.

Thanks.



Submitted March 06, 2020 at 11:27PM

Last night I was using my boyfriend’s browser to search something & when I opened a new tab, the ones behind it displayed images of a very obviously overweight woman. I then went to his search history & upon doing that, found that he searched for “big belly bbw”. Immediately, I confronted him about this, as it makes me extremely uncomfortable.I am no where close to the size that the women he searched for are. I understand a fantasy but I have seen (before we started dating) nudes on his phone of MUCH larger women. I feel as if he is into fat girls & he is not honest enough with himself to admit that.I have been with him for 2 years & he has apparently lied to me this entire time about his sexual history. He has told me that he’s had sex with at least 4 people, one of them attractive, the rest I have not seen. Last night, he told me that he’s only had sex with one other person besides me & that she was fat (he lost his virginity to her). Now I don’t know what to believe & why he would change his story upon me finding out. Why is he ashamed?Frankly, I feel disgusted by this fetish he has. I do not admire the culture surrounding that body type or the “acceptance movement”. You should love yourself & strive to be healthy but clearly his search was geared towards one specific area of the body that shows that person is in an unhealthy state.We have had problems before this, lying about small things. This is different. I know this is far more than just a kink, it is a fetish. He will not admit to it but I will or will not have to live with this for the rest of my time being with him.How do I approach something like this? Do I let go & let him experience this? I feel like I don’t know what to believe anymore.Thanks.
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