Did my bf sexually assault his ex?

My bf and I were talking about our ghosts last night and he told me about how when he was 19/20 he was really pushy with a ex of his. Throughout their relationship, she was really good about telling him when he was going too far and he would stop. Her rule was that she was always down to do stuff and that she would tell him when he was going too far. And she practiced this out whenever they hooked up. But then he started using that to his advantage and would push up until she would say no.

The big part that really unsettled me is that she would leave her panties on and he would simulate thrusting into her. Arguably, having sex. After a while, she mentioned she was planning on having sex with, so he started moving her panties to the side and putting his dick inside her some and thrusting. He never fully initiated sex because he was nervous she didn’t want it, but still just decided to push til she said no (which she never did).

It really unsettled me because he’s afraid he sexually assaulted her even though he was just waiting for her to say no (like the rule she laid out). I feel like he was sneaky and took advantage of her rule, but didn’t sexually assault her. Any help is really appreciated!

Tl;dr - my bf used to hook up with a girl and push til she would say no (she had a rule where she would always tell him if he was going too far). Unsettled cause he feels he sexually assaulted her and is having a tough time coping with it. I think he just took advantage of the rule.

Submitted February 21, 2020 at 11:47PM

My bf and I were talking about our ghosts last night and he told me about how when he was 19/20 he was really pushy with a ex of his. Throughout their relationship, she was really good about telling him when he was going too far and he would stop. Her rule was that she was always down to do stuff and that she would tell him when he was going too far. And she practiced this out whenever they hooked up. But then he started using that to his advantage and would push up until she would say no.The big part that really unsettled me is that she would leave her panties on and he would simulate thrusting into her. Arguably, having sex. After a while, she mentioned she was planning on having sex with, so he started moving her panties to the side and putting his dick inside her some and thrusting. He never fully initiated sex because he was nervous she didn’t want it, but still just decided to push til she said no (which she never did).It really unsettled me because he’s afraid he sexually assaulted her even though he was just waiting for her to say no (like the rule she laid out). I feel like he was sneaky and took advantage of her rule, but didn’t sexually assault her. Any help is really appreciated!Tl;dr - my bf used to hook up with a girl and push til she would say no (she had a rule where she would always tell him if he was going too far). Unsettled cause he feels he sexually assaulted her and is having a tough time coping with it. I think he just took advantage of the rule.