I (21F) have never had sex and have never orgasmed from masturbation.

Throwaway account since I wanted some decent advice and thought getting quite detailed might help.

Basically the title explains it but I am a virgin and have never done any kind of sexual acts with another person-I’ve not even kissed anyone before. I masturbate fairly regularly, once every couple of weeks on average probably. But I have never brought myself to orgasm. Or I don’t believe so anyway. I read the faq and learned about how you can just be content after masturbating rather than how orgasms are generally presented in porn or movies. However I do feel like maybe I could push myself further and I’m just not. I don’t really have a reason for stopping masturbating when I do. I just do. I’m wondering if maybe there’s something I can do or if I’m just not ready yet.

Just to include other potentially relevant information to paint a picture of myself and my lifestyle:

I have had depression and anxiety issues for several years and have recently started on venlafaxine however, not orgasming has been an issue since I started masturbating.

I have had self-confidence issues since I was at least 10 and haven’t liked myself or my body for a long time but, since last year, I’ve been trying to be more positive towards myself

Since I’ve never had any sexual interactions, I don’t really know what sexuality I am. I find both men and women attractive and I do get turned on by straight and lesbian porn but I couldn’t say definitely my identity

I didn’t go to university and still live at home with my parents

For a while I was very into bdsm and dom/sub culture however I have drifted away from that now. Though, I do still sometimes get turned on by lighter play

I consider myself to have a negative relationship with sex. When I masturbate, I basically only stimulate my clitoris with my fingers and generally I do it through my underwear. When I think about even my own fingers entering my vagina, I sometimes get dizzy. I have an overactive imagination and, when I was younger, I fainted a few times in school when learning about various things such as the procedure for ivf.

Maybe I went too much into detail or maybe there’s things that people still want to know. I just wanted some advice and was interested to see if anyone has ever been through something similar. Sorry if it’s not appropriate for the sub, please redirect me because I’m still fairly new to reddit.

Tl;dr: I (21F) am a virgin, who has never even kissed anyone, and cannot push myself over the edge to orgasming and want some advice on becoming more sex positive and comfortable.

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Submitted January 08, 2020 at 11:30PM

Throwaway account since I wanted some decent advice and thought getting quite detailed might help.Basically the title explains it but I am a virgin and have never done any kind of sexual acts with another person-I’ve not even kissed anyone before. I masturbate fairly regularly, once every couple of weeks on average probably. But I have never brought myself to orgasm. Or I don’t believe so anyway. I read the faq and learned about how you can just be content after masturbating rather than how orgasms are generally presented in porn or movies. However I do feel like maybe I could push myself further and I’m just not. I don’t really have a reason for stopping masturbating when I do. I just do. I’m wondering if maybe there’s something I can do or if I’m just not ready yet.Just to include other potentially relevant information to paint a picture of myself and my lifestyle:I have had depression and anxiety issues for several years and have recently started on venlafaxine however, not orgasming has been an issue since I started masturbating.I have had self-confidence issues since I was at least 10 and haven’t liked myself or my body for a long time but, since last year, I’ve been trying to be more positive towards myselfSince I’ve never had any sexual interactions, I don’t really know what sexuality I am. I find both men and women attractive and I do get turned on by straight and lesbian porn but I couldn’t say definitely my identityI didn’t go to university and still live at home with my parentsFor a while I was very into bdsm and dom/sub culture however I have drifted away from that now. Though, I do still sometimes get turned on by lighter playI consider myself to have a negative relationship with sex. When I masturbate, I basically only stimulate my clitoris with my fingers and generally I do it through my underwear. When I think about even my own fingers entering my vagina, I sometimes get dizzy. I have an overactive imagination and, when I was younger, I fainted a few times in school when learning about various things such as the procedure for ivf.Maybe I went too much into detail or maybe there’s things that people still want to know. I just wanted some advice and was interested to see if anyone has ever been through something similar. Sorry if it’s not appropriate for the sub, please redirect me because I’m still fairly new to reddit.Tl;dr: I (21F) am a virgin, who has never even kissed anyone, and cannot push myself over the edge to orgasming and want some advice on becoming more sex positive and comfortable.Edit:Checking spacing after posting