Dilemma about this girl I date?

Hello guys/girls!

I'm 28/M. I haven't been dating any girls since 4-5 years ago (maybe had a date or two in this timeframe but nothing special, nothing longer term), I had a girlfriend for more than a year back around 2012-13-14, then I went around dating and hooking up with girls for a one night stands. But after that I got bored a bit with it, not finding any long term girlfriend. So I just got less interested in the whole thing, then my confidence started to dip too (taking too long to get my engineering degree, some girls saying I'm nice and everything but I'm still in school rather than having a job and starting a life etc.. I know I shouldn't worry about them but these things put a mark on my confidence big time, so I'm less likely to start a conversation with a girl knowing I will be declined later on because of this... Anyway I'm half a semester away from my degree, started thinking about work too, but I'm still not sure if I should start a relationship. I just wanted to write these down cuz maybe I'm overthinking this whole dating thing with this girl, because of these problems I had in the past. Anyway...

So there's this girl I've met in a Supermarket she was doing questionnaires as a side job for the weekend, her main job is kindergarten teacher (I find it quite cute and refreshing after I had girls who was on this whole Career thing in the past -- no disrespect to any guy/girl who are these career types). So anyway I met this girl talked a bit during the questionnaire (I'm not big on doing these randomly in the city but I said what the heck I liked her, and I haven't done any talking to girls in a long time now), we admired each other's looks just a bit, then said goodbye, later I met her again she asked if I would like to do the questionnaire again(she had a quota to meet haha), I did, talked a bit then said goodbye again. This was at the end of October.

I tried to find the girl on Tinder or Facebook without success, so I just left it alone. Like a month later the girl found me and texted on Facebook if I remember her. So we started chatting for a few days, then made a date. We met around 8pm and talked till 3am in the morning. It was really fun although I had one little complaint, she is talking a lot. Still I had a fun time and the whole date felt like it was over very fast. We had a few peck on the mouth and nothing else.

We talked for a few days again then made a second date, again it was good, we talked a lot, she finished work at around 4pm and we were talking till like 10pm, we stopped only because she was working the next day. We made out a bit although it's still only pecks mainly but maybe a bit more emotional haha.

I said to myself I'm starting to like this girl more and more... She is cute, talkative, she is honest and pretty open about herself and about this whole dating thing we are doing here which is awesome I hate to play games during the early dating stages. We both had pretty bad relationship experience ourselves(both of us had this feeling in the past like "are we good enough for our partners" etc), she didn't have any serious relationship in a long time too.

Anyway we met for a third time today again, and again it was a long talking session like last time everything went good.

Although the complaint I had on the first date came back again a bit.... She is talking a lot, she knows this about herself (she even asked me if I want her to not speak that much LOL I told her I don't want her to be quiet or smth like that, if she wants to speak speak, It would be so annoying for me too to not be myself), she had ppl who cut short the whole dating with her because of this, and the fact that she can bond with somebody pretty quickly or because she is a bit rushy. She is pretty openly talking about things what we will do in the future, like we are in a relationship, like travelling to places etc. Yeah it feels a little wierd sometimes, but It's getting better the more we meet.

It's just that little voice in my head, do I want to be in a relationship? Yes I would like to, but Do I want to be with this girl? She is talking a lot, not annoyed atm but maybe I will get annoyed by it? She has a dog too in her apartment, and I'm not really fond of dogs inside, outside it's all fine, cutest things in the world but inside moving around, what if we are having sex? will the dog move around and pant during that... probably yes...?? I just want to fondle her and the dog just sits there next to us... I don't know Am i overthinking this haha?

Bottom line is, I really like the girl(and she likes me too according to her), better and better every time we meet, but there are these questions which don't let me be in peace. We talked about 2 more dates in the next week, then she is moving away for a week or two.

Anyway sorry for being long, I hope you can guys give some advice, tips on this.... I was out of this dating world a long time now, not sure if i'm just overthinking or what. Thank you for reading! Have a good day!

Submitted December 13, 2019 at 12:07AM

Hello guys/girls!I'm 28/M. I haven't been dating any girls since 4-5 years ago (maybe had a date or two in this timeframe but nothing special, nothing longer term), I had a girlfriend for more than a year back around 2012-13-14, then I went around dating and hooking up with girls for a one night stands. But after that I got bored a bit with it, not finding any long term girlfriend. So I just got less interested in the whole thing, then my confidence started to dip too (taking too long to get my engineering degree, some girls saying I'm nice and everything but I'm still in school rather than having a job and starting a life etc.. I know I shouldn't worry about them but these things put a mark on my confidence big time, so I'm less likely to start a conversation with a girl knowing I will be declined later on because of this... Anyway I'm half a semester away from my degree, started thinking about work too, but I'm still not sure if I should start a relationship. I just wanted to write these down cuz maybe I'm overthinking this whole dating thing with this girl, because of these problems I had in the past. Anyway...So there's this girl I've met in a Supermarket she was doing questionnaires as a side job for the weekend, her main job is kindergarten teacher (I find it quite cute and refreshing after I had girls who was on this whole Career thing in the past -- no disrespect to any guy/girl who are these career types). So anyway I met this girl talked a bit during the questionnaire (I'm not big on doing these randomly in the city but I said what the heck I liked her, and I haven't done any talking to girls in a long time now), we admired each other's looks just a bit, then said goodbye, later I met her again she asked if I would like to do the questionnaire again(she had a quota to meet haha), I did, talked a bit then said goodbye again. This was at the end of October.I tried to find the girl on Tinder or Facebook without success, so I just left it alone. Like a month later the girl found me and texted on Facebook if I remember her. So we started chatting for a few days, then made a date. We met around 8pm and talked till 3am in the morning. It was really fun although I had one little complaint, she is talking a lot. Still I had a fun time and the whole date felt like it was over very fast. We had a few peck on the mouth and nothing else.We talked for a few days again then made a second date, again it was good, we talked a lot, she finished work at around 4pm and we were talking till like 10pm, we stopped only because she was working the next day. We made out a bit although it's still only pecks mainly but maybe a bit more emotional haha.I said to myself I'm starting to like this girl more and more... She is cute, talkative, she is honest and pretty open about herself and about this whole dating thing we are doing here which is awesome I hate to play games during the early dating stages. We both had pretty bad relationship experience ourselves(both of us had this feeling in the past like "are we good enough for our partners" etc), she didn't have any serious relationship in a long time too.Anyway we met for a third time today again, and again it was a long talking session like last time everything went good.Although the complaint I had on the first date came back again a bit.... She is talking a lot, she knows this about herself (she even asked me if I want her to not speak that much LOL I told her I don't want her to be quiet or smth like that, if she wants to speak speak, It would be so annoying for me too to not be myself), she had ppl who cut short the whole dating with her because of this, and the fact that she can bond with somebody pretty quickly or because she is a bit rushy. She is pretty openly talking about things what we will do in the future, like we are in a relationship, like travelling to places etc. Yeah it feels a little wierd sometimes, but It's getting better the more we meet.It's just that little voice in my head, do I want to be in a relationship? Yes I would like to, but Do I want to be with this girl? She is talking a lot, not annoyed atm but maybe I will get annoyed by it? She has a dog too in her apartment, and I'm not really fond of dogs inside, outside it's all fine, cutest things in the world but inside moving around, what if we are having sex? will the dog move around and pant during that... probably yes...?? I just want to fondle her and the dog just sits there next to us... I don't know Am i overthinking this haha?Bottom line is, I really like the girl(and she likes me too according to her), better and better every time we meet, but there are these questions which don't let me be in peace. We talked about 2 more dates in the next week, then she is moving away for a week or two.Anyway sorry for being long, I hope you can guys give some advice, tips on this.... I was out of this dating world a long time now, not sure if i'm just overthinking or what. Thank you for reading! Have a good day!