What’s happening here? Just wanting sex? What switched?

Hey y’all, wanted some advice. I think I know the answer but I want to be reassured, maybe get some insight on how to handle the situation. Been talking to a guy everyday for the past almost 2 months- he puts in a lot of effort to stay in contact. Texts, snaps, instagram, etc. That is important to me, because its bare minimum and if you can't even do that, what can you do? We ran into eachother at the bar last week, 1 day before we were supossed to finally go out for drinks. It wasn't a good run in- He came out only to see me but I didn't get along with his friends so I left. I made it clear his friend was a dick, and he apologized prosolusely. He then, the next day, cancelled his date. Due to family troubles. After that, he was not keeping in contact at all. I brought it up, a couple times and he said he was just busy at work. Whatever. We planned to hang out tonight- He wants me over for a movie. I tried to say lets get a drink first. He said he’d make me one. I tried again and he said he's trying to save money, he'll come along for company but doesn't want to go out. I've told him once or twice before I'd rather go out and meet first before just going over to his place or inviting him over, because he'd always invite me over or say lets cuddle blah blah. "At least take me for dinner." Anyways- so now I am mad and want to cancel. It seems he just wants to have me over for one reason. Has been playing the long game. Something switched when we ran into eachother??? I'm upset. I don't want to keep pushing to go out if he ovbiously is not interested... Or am I over reacting. Thanks in advance frickin love this page



Submitted November 14, 2019 at 12:17AM

Hey y’all, wanted some advice. I think I know the answer but I want to be reassured, maybe get some insight on how to handle the situation. Been talking to a guy everyday for the past almost 2 months- he puts in a lot of effort to stay in contact. Texts, snaps, instagram, etc. That is important to me, because its bare minimum and if you can't even do that, what can you do? We ran into eachother at the bar last week, 1 day before we were supossed to finally go out for drinks. It wasn't a good run in- He came out only to see me but I didn't get along with his friends so I left. I made it clear his friend was a dick, and he apologized prosolusely. He then, the next day, cancelled his date. Due to family troubles. After that, he was not keeping in contact at all. I brought it up, a couple times and he said he was just busy at work. Whatever. We planned to hang out tonight- He wants me over for a movie. I tried to say lets get a drink first. He said he’d make me one. I tried again and he said he's trying to save money, he'll come along for company but doesn't want to go out. I've told him once or twice before I'd rather go out and meet first before just going over to his place or inviting him over, because he'd always invite me over or say lets cuddle blah blah. "At least take me for dinner." Anyways- so now I am mad and want to cancel. It seems he just wants to have me over for one reason. Has been playing the long game. Something switched when we ran into eachother??? I'm upset. I don't want to keep pushing to go out if he ovbiously is not interested... Or am I over reacting. Thanks in advance frickin love this page
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