m34, totally deaf to signals, please help

Hi friends,

her = Min Brief Background - In the evenings before or after class for the last several years I've been going to a coffee shop, and one of the baristas there is just the warmest, most hilarious woman in existence. Chatting with Min is like being near a wood stove, the crackle of fire is her wonderful sense of humor! As Min's natural demeanor is so warm and open, I want to make sure I'm not misreading her.

When we've chatted, Min seems interested in my life and asks a lot of great questions. She's covered my coffee and meal/snack before, and six weeks or so ago she held out her hands for me when I came in, and so we clasped hands in greeting.

As my work is interesting to some people, Min asked me if I would be interested in speaking to her class (she's a teacher, paying off her student loans, hence barista) and of course I am, so I expressed as much. I had been out of town for a conference, so up till last night it had been a few weeks since I'd seen Min, and so last night I asked for her number, as professionally speaking I'll need it, and personally I am really very fond of Min and I'm definitely interested in dating her.

So I texted her last night and said, 'Hey Min, this is crispcabbage, I was happy to see you tonight :)' to which Min replied, 'I appreciate you very much! It's always a pleasure catching up with you! Please take care tonight, crispcabbage. I'm sure we'll follow up again soon.'

About me: I'm tall, athletic/lean, attractive. One of my coworkers says I look like an off brand Keano. I'm introverted, shy, and I sometimes struggle with conversation outside of my areas of interest. I usually don't notice signs of interest until well after the fact, if at all.

thank you, crispcabbage



Submitted November 14, 2019 at 12:18AM

Hi friends,her = Min Brief Background - In the evenings before or after class for the last several years I've been going to a coffee shop, and one of the baristas there is just the warmest, most hilarious woman in existence. Chatting with Min is like being near a wood stove, the crackle of fire is her wonderful sense of humor! As Min's natural demeanor is so warm and open, I want to make sure I'm not misreading her.When we've chatted, Min seems interested in my life and asks a lot of great questions. She's covered my coffee and meal/snack before, and six weeks or so ago she held out her hands for me when I came in, and so we clasped hands in greeting.As my work is interesting to some people, Min asked me if I would be interested in speaking to her class (she's a teacher, paying off her student loans, hence barista) and of course I am, so I expressed as much. I had been out of town for a conference, so up till last night it had been a few weeks since I'd seen Min, and so last night I asked for her number, as professionally speaking I'll need it, and personally I am really very fond of Min and I'm definitely interested in dating her.So I texted her last night and said, 'Hey Min, this is crispcabbage, I was happy to see you tonight :)' to which Min replied, 'I appreciate you very much! It's always a pleasure catching up with you! Please take care tonight, crispcabbage. I'm sure we'll follow up again soon.'About me: I'm tall, athletic/lean, attractive. One of my coworkers says I look like an off brand Keano. I'm introverted, shy, and I sometimes struggle with conversation outside of my areas of interest. I usually don't notice signs of interest until well after the fact, if at all.thank you, crispcabbage
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