What is going on here?

I'm not sure where to start with this, so please bear with me.

I [23M] have been interested in a girl [21F] whom I work with for a while now, and I also believe that she has been interested in me for a while as well. I don't want to force any of you to have to go back and read my previous posts on here, so I will attempt to summarize them as best I can so you understand the basics of the situation.

She and I met over mid-summer when we began working as lifeguards at a local pool near our university. Pretty much from the first day we met, I liked her and I felt that she was interested in me as well; however, I was hesitant to make a move until several months later when our semester started up. When I initially asked her out for some coffee later that week, she initially said yes and seemed happy that I asked her out; however, when I later asked her what day, she said she "didn't want to give me the wrong idea." I was visibly taken aback, and I am pretty sure she realized this, and for about a month after that she avoided me. this ended around early-October when she slowly began to talk with me and actually seemed like she was flirting with me again; however, I was too hesitant to make a move at that time. Come the week after Halloween, she was flirting with me more than usual during one of our work shifts, but I, again, didn't ask her out because I was too afraid that she would decline and didn't want her to avoid me again. I really like her and didn't want this to happen again.

However, the very next week, she began to avoid me again until one of our shifts later that week where she and one of her best friends were working together. Not even 5 minutes into our shift, she began to talk to her friend about her "new boyfriend" which she was excited to bring to formal on Saturday, talking about what she would wear, etc... This went on for a little while until I walked outside with her friend to conduct some maintenance, and during which I told her that I still really liked her and would really appreciate it if they wouldn't bring up her new boyfriend in front of me. she seemed surprised that I said this and sounded like she genuinely felt bad for me.

I haven't really made any contact with the girl I like since then, but during our shifts, she always seems to avoid me when we are off stand, but has made somewhat of an effort to still rotate positions behind me, so she was not COMPLETELY avoiding me if that makes any sense. Every shift which I have worked with her since the day she mentioned her new boyfriend, she has seemed to be quite depressed. I was talking with some of the other guards the other day about random things when the topic changed to their training shift last week, and how the girl I like broke down and started crying mid-shift (i am not sure as to why this happened, and none of the other guards know that I asked her out, so I did not want to ask more questions about this.). This kind of behaviour is not normal at all for her, and I am just curious as to what yall's take is on the situation.

I have a feeling that her friend told her how i still felt about her, and this possibly has complicated her feelings for both me and her boyfriend; however, I don't know for sure and I am too hesitant to ask her friend at this point. Do any of yall have any advice to this situation? i would greatly appreciate it.

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Sorry for any grammar mistakes, I have to leave soon but wanted to publish it before I left. I will tidy it up later.

Submitted November 22, 2019 at 12:08AM

I'm not sure where to start with this, so please bear with me.I [23M] have been interested in a girl [21F] whom I work with for a while now, and I also believe that she has been interested in me for a while as well. I don't want to force any of you to have to go back and read my previous posts on here, so I will attempt to summarize them as best I can so you understand the basics of the situation.She and I met over mid-summer when we began working as lifeguards at a local pool near our university. Pretty much from the first day we met, I liked her and I felt that she was interested in me as well; however, I was hesitant to make a move until several months later when our semester started up. When I initially asked her out for some coffee later that week, she initially said yes and seemed happy that I asked her out; however, when I later asked her what day, she said she "didn't want to give me the wrong idea." I was visibly taken aback, and I am pretty sure she realized this, and for about a month after that she avoided me. this ended around early-October when she slowly began to talk with me and actually seemed like she was flirting with me again; however, I was too hesitant to make a move at that time. Come the week after Halloween, she was flirting with me more than usual during one of our work shifts, but I, again, didn't ask her out because I was too afraid that she would decline and didn't want her to avoid me again. I really like her and didn't want this to happen again.However, the very next week, she began to avoid me again until one of our shifts later that week where she and one of her best friends were working together. Not even 5 minutes into our shift, she began to talk to her friend about her "new boyfriend" which she was excited to bring to formal on Saturday, talking about what she would wear, etc... This went on for a little while until I walked outside with her friend to conduct some maintenance, and during which I told her that I still really liked her and would really appreciate it if they wouldn't bring up her new boyfriend in front of me. she seemed surprised that I said this and sounded like she genuinely felt bad for me.I haven't really made any contact with the girl I like since then, but during our shifts, she always seems to avoid me when we are off stand, but has made somewhat of an effort to still rotate positions behind me, so she was not COMPLETELY avoiding me if that makes any sense. Every shift which I have worked with her since the day she mentioned her new boyfriend, she has seemed to be quite depressed. I was talking with some of the other guards the other day about random things when the topic changed to their training shift last week, and how the girl I like broke down and started crying mid-shift (i am not sure as to why this happened, and none of the other guards know that I asked her out, so I did not want to ask more questions about this.). This kind of behaviour is not normal at all for her, and I am just curious as to what yall's take is on the situation.I have a feeling that her friend told her how i still felt about her, and this possibly has complicated her feelings for both me and her boyfriend; however, I don't know for sure and I am too hesitant to ask her friend at this point. Do any of yall have any advice to this situation? i would greatly appreciate it.​Sorry for any grammar mistakes, I have to leave soon but wanted to publish it before I left. I will tidy it up later.