Why did I get ghosted? I feel like I’m too awkward to date girls

Why did I get ghosted? feel like I’m too awkward to date girls

I recently got ghosted. I went to a club on Saturday with my friends( I’m at uni) Towards the end of the night I was sitting down upstairs kind of just enjoying myself( my friends were talking to other people) and me and this girl start looking over at each other.

I’m too nervous to approach her but we’re directly starting at each other smiling etc. But then She uses her finger to encourage me to come over if that makes sense so I know I can. Then when i approach her the chemistry is good, she’s laughing at my jokes. I ask for her number and she says yes and then we hug. I also made a few friends that night in general so was feeling pretty confident.

Now yes I know it’s probably likely she wanted me to buy her a drink, dance with her and even hook up. But here’s the thing, I don’t like hooking up or one night things in general. I go to clubs to have a good time with my mates.

Anyways, the next day I text her and she responds very quick. Then we exchange like 3 texts each and out of nowhere she just reads my message and ghosts me. Nothing weird was sent, just casual talk and she was responding normally and seemed interested.

This has happened to me like 2-3 times now after I get a girls number in a club. However there have been a couple times I get a number and we end up seeing each other on a date etc. It’s really hit and miss.

So you may ask why I try to get numbers in clubs. Well I don’t really. Most of the time the girl is the one who encourages me to talk to them and I end up getting her number. I do feel they just want a casual hook up but I can’t exactly ask that and I don’t want that.

And maybe it will be hard for people to understand but it’s hard to meet girls or get numbers in other situations in uni. Yes societies exist where you can meet girls but I’m not a society person and like having free time and having time to study.

You could say through mutual friends you can meet girls but all the friends I’ve met mutually I have only wanted to be friends with. I had to come out my comfort zone to make friends and I like them. I like sticking with them in general because they’re broadly reliable.

Ghosting really sucks. I can’t think of a reason why she ghosted so quickly. Makes you question everything. I think the most likely thing is she was only interested in a hookup and not dating. Still sucks though as the chemistry was good on the night. This has happened a couple times now.

I guess I have to keep trying but my confidence and self esteem does take a hit every time this happens Any advice?

Submitted September 30, 2019 at 11:55PM

Why did I get ghosted? feel like I’m too awkward to date girlsI recently got ghosted. I went to a club on Saturday with my friends( I’m at uni) Towards the end of the night I was sitting down upstairs kind of just enjoying myself( my friends were talking to other people) and me and this girl start looking over at each other.I’m too nervous to approach her but we’re directly starting at each other smiling etc. But then She uses her finger to encourage me to come over if that makes sense so I know I can. Then when i approach her the chemistry is good, she’s laughing at my jokes. I ask for her number and she says yes and then we hug. I also made a few friends that night in general so was feeling pretty confident.Now yes I know it’s probably likely she wanted me to buy her a drink, dance with her and even hook up. But here’s the thing, I don’t like hooking up or one night things in general. I go to clubs to have a good time with my mates.Anyways, the next day I text her and she responds very quick. Then we exchange like 3 texts each and out of nowhere she just reads my message and ghosts me. Nothing weird was sent, just casual talk and she was responding normally and seemed interested.This has happened to me like 2-3 times now after I get a girls number in a club. However there have been a couple times I get a number and we end up seeing each other on a date etc. It’s really hit and miss.So you may ask why I try to get numbers in clubs. Well I don’t really. Most of the time the girl is the one who encourages me to talk to them and I end up getting her number. I do feel they just want a casual hook up but I can’t exactly ask that and I don’t want that.And maybe it will be hard for people to understand but it’s hard to meet girls or get numbers in other situations in uni. Yes societies exist where you can meet girls but I’m not a society person and like having free time and having time to study.You could say through mutual friends you can meet girls but all the friends I’ve met mutually I have only wanted to be friends with. I had to come out my comfort zone to make friends and I like them. I like sticking with them in general because they’re broadly reliable.Ghosting really sucks. I can’t think of a reason why she ghosted so quickly. Makes you question everything. I think the most likely thing is she was only interested in a hookup and not dating. Still sucks though as the chemistry was good on the night. This has happened a couple times now.I guess I have to keep trying but my confidence and self esteem does take a hit every time this happens Any advice?