50 years old... so hard to find a match at this point :(

I've been divorced for 3 years, and separated 2 years before that. Have not had one relationship in the 5 years. Several flings, very short term "dating situations" (not sure what else to call it- they were not exclusive), and many one or two time dates. I've done online dating and still doing it. Have also dated people I met organically.

At this point, I find that it's nearly impossible to find someone who even has the same goal of being in a relationship. The ones I have dated and really liked, clearly did not want a committed relationship. The ones who liked me and wanted a relationship were not the type that I was attracted to or felt compatible with. Not a huge problem getting dates, but a huge problem finding anyone that I am attracted to/compatible with who also wants a relationship.

I know the options are few when you are 50, just by the numbers... many have been thru bad divorces and are now jaded, and many I meet are my age or older and have never been married (and don't want a relationship, which is why they are forever going to be single). I don't really care if I ever get married again, but I do want a relationship.

It's an added problem that I live in a small town, not super close to a major city. So many strikes against me. I thought that by taking care of myself, staying in good shape and being an intelligent, educated, loving person, I would somehow meet a man who is similar. In 5 years though, no one relationship. It's weighing on me lately, yes I can get along on my own and I have been. I have 3 great kids (two are adults, only one still at home), and I'm lucky to have great kids. But I want a partner and starting to think it isn't in the cards.

Submitted October 01, 2019 at 12:04AM

I've been divorced for 3 years, and separated 2 years before that. Have not had one relationship in the 5 years. Several flings, very short term "dating situations" (not sure what else to call it- they were not exclusive), and many one or two time dates. I've done online dating and still doing it. Have also dated people I met organically.At this point, I find that it's nearly impossible to find someone who even has the same goal of being in a relationship. The ones I have dated and really liked, clearly did not want a committed relationship. The ones who liked me and wanted a relationship were not the type that I was attracted to or felt compatible with. Not a huge problem getting dates, but a huge problem finding anyone that I am attracted to/compatible with who also wants a relationship.I know the options are few when you are 50, just by the numbers... many have been thru bad divorces and are now jaded, and many I meet are my age or older and have never been married (and don't want a relationship, which is why they are forever going to be single). I don't really care if I ever get married again, but I do want a relationship.It's an added problem that I live in a small town, not super close to a major city. So many strikes against me. I thought that by taking care of myself, staying in good shape and being an intelligent, educated, loving person, I would somehow meet a man who is similar. In 5 years though, no one relationship. It's weighing on me lately, yes I can get along on my own and I have been. I have 3 great kids (two are adults, only one still at home), and I'm lucky to have great kids. But I want a partner and starting to think it isn't in the cards.