I have no idea what I'm doing.

I met this girl and tried to get to know her. I hung out a few times with her. We are both in our late twenties. I made friends with her friends and even was invited to have dinner with them. I heard from another group of people how they aren't genuine and honestly, even though you shouldn't trust bad hearsay, this sounded realistic given how they party and imo how things normally look good until they aren't.

I didn't want the distraction since I'm in graduate school full-time and it's easy to screw up if I felt I wasted time, or saw childishness like I've seen in my classmates. I let my anxiety get to me and assumed every negative thing since I don't have much experience in getting to know someone and worrying about being too attached. I think my personality is just that it appreciates good people and experiences too much.

I let that get the better of me and when this person kept putting off lunch together for 2 weeks- I was super skeptical. I hated I was putting so much effort to getting to know someone and thought I may not even be in this city after the summer. I think I jumped the gun because I haven't had the chance to really vibe with someone in a few years. I ended up pushing this person away with, not accusations, but confronting this person of not being serious about meeting up.

I guess I was tired I invested too much of myself into this and was hoping so much we'd vibe I actually tried to force the scenario to vibe. Although the line to me is a bit blurred to act naturally, since in doing so I don't act as though I'm interested or it doesn't instigate anything.

I've heard if people just keep on pushing meeting up together again, then it probably isn't important to them. But I honestly think this person had a tight schedule, or they could be exaggerating it, I don't know either way.

I learned the best thing is to just let it go and let time past to see if they are serious about hanging out or not. Not immediately jump to the bad conclusions since I've had those experiences with some girls, even during the stage of getting to know them. I learned to accept even if what others said is true, accept the good and bad, and if the bad is that bad, then just drop knowing this person and move on. I got too positive.

Submitted September 02, 2019 at 11:28PM

I met this girl and tried to get to know her. I hung out a few times with her. We are both in our late twenties. I made friends with her friends and even was invited to have dinner with them. I heard from another group of people how they aren't genuine and honestly, even though you shouldn't trust bad hearsay, this sounded realistic given how they party and imo how things normally look good until they aren't.I didn't want the distraction since I'm in graduate school full-time and it's easy to screw up if I felt I wasted time, or saw childishness like I've seen in my classmates. I let my anxiety get to me and assumed every negative thing since I don't have much experience in getting to know someone and worrying about being too attached. I think my personality is just that it appreciates good people and experiences too much.I let that get the better of me and when this person kept putting off lunch together for 2 weeks- I was super skeptical. I hated I was putting so much effort to getting to know someone and thought I may not even be in this city after the summer. I think I jumped the gun because I haven't had the chance to really vibe with someone in a few years. I ended up pushing this person away with, not accusations, but confronting this person of not being serious about meeting up.I guess I was tired I invested too much of myself into this and was hoping so much we'd vibe I actually tried to force the scenario to vibe. Although the line to me is a bit blurred to act naturally, since in doing so I don't act as though I'm interested or it doesn't instigate anything.I've heard if people just keep on pushing meeting up together again, then it probably isn't important to them. But I honestly think this person had a tight schedule, or they could be exaggerating it, I don't know either way.I learned the best thing is to just let it go and let time past to see if they are serious about hanging out or not. Not immediately jump to the bad conclusions since I've had those experiences with some girls, even during the stage of getting to know them. I learned to accept even if what others said is true, accept the good and bad, and if the bad is that bad, then just drop knowing this person and move on. I got too positive.