Am I getting played? am i unlucky? or is this normal?

So the other day I met this girl on an obscure dating app. She instantly sent me a message responding to my bio, my bio said feel free to ask me out and she did. I responded saying yeah, I told her that I was in another city and she said It doesent matter she can still make it to me. So we talked normally and I made plans and prebooked something (It was prepaid, and a mistake ill never make ever again.) Over time, her time to respond took longer and longer. But in my head I didin't mind since I rather just save the talk for the date and I stopped talking regularly aswell, I just kept DM'ing her the details for the plans.

So today was the day when the date was supposed to happen in the evening and I texted her something to get her to respond if shes coming or not. And wouldnt you know it "her car engine died" on her and theres no way for her to make it down to me today at least. So while facepalming i asked her when shes free again, and I rescheduled the activity to the day that she told me she was free because there are no refunds (L). So now im here digging thru her insta and see that she has her activity on DM hidden so you cant see when shes active and she keeps following back other dudes. This is immediately a huge red flag for me, anyways it could be that she just does a lot of Follow for Follows judging that her ratio is 1500+ following and 2000+ followers. But also, it could mean other things, what I was thinking is either she is playing alot of dudes for her entertainment by acting and saying the same things she said to me or going on alot of dates with different guys. I dont know.

Either way this is very sketchy, and I had a very strong feeling that something like this would happen. If worse comes to worse and she doesent come thru again, ill just move on and take the $65 L for the activity, aswell as a L for my time and sanity. What do you think?



Submitted September 02, 2019 at 11:58PM

So the other day I met this girl on an obscure dating app. She instantly sent me a message responding to my bio, my bio said feel free to ask me out and she did. I responded saying yeah, I told her that I was in another city and she said It doesent matter she can still make it to me. So we talked normally and I made plans and prebooked something (It was prepaid, and a mistake ill never make ever again.) Over time, her time to respond took longer and longer. But in my head I didin't mind since I rather just save the talk for the date and I stopped talking regularly aswell, I just kept DM'ing her the details for the plans.So today was the day when the date was supposed to happen in the evening and I texted her something to get her to respond if shes coming or not. And wouldnt you know it "her car engine died" on her and theres no way for her to make it down to me today at least. So while facepalming i asked her when shes free again, and I rescheduled the activity to the day that she told me she was free because there are no refunds (L). So now im here digging thru her insta and see that she has her activity on DM hidden so you cant see when shes active and she keeps following back other dudes. This is immediately a huge red flag for me, anyways it could be that she just does a lot of Follow for Follows judging that her ratio is 1500+ following and 2000+ followers. But also, it could mean other things, what I was thinking is either she is playing alot of dudes for her entertainment by acting and saying the same things she said to me or going on alot of dates with different guys. I dont know.Either way this is very sketchy, and I had a very strong feeling that something like this would happen. If worse comes to worse and she doesent come thru again, ill just move on and take the $65 L for the activity, aswell as a L for my time and sanity. What do you think?
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