Could use perspective on my(23m) female(22f) bestfriend

Ok here we go. My best female friend just got out of a relationship. The last couple months I’ve been there for her a lot. We went to a concert and did some shrooms and it seems like a lot of emotions came out. I have reason to believe she has feelings for me but I am conflicted based on the night because a lot of stuff happened. Here is my evidence

  1. We are at a concert and out of nowhere she asks me about another female friend I have. She asked me if her and another female friend are the same person in my mind. I say no I would go to each of them for different things. I said I’d go to my female best friend if I wanted to be myself and I said I’d go the the other female friend for emotional support. She then proceeded to start crying, ask me what I saw in this other woman, claimed I’d always be in love with her and when I asked why it matters if this other woman is in my life she said she wasn’t ready to have this conversation with me.
  2. Later in the night we are hanging out in her car and talking about how she is “crazy”. She’s not but she is an emotional person. She asks me in a playful baby voice if I like that she’s crazy. I respond by saying yes. She then giggles a lot.
  3. We found a rubber band and I hit her with it. She then says that it feels good but in a weird way. We then spend half an hour hitting each other with rubber band because it feels good.
  4. We start talking about if she’d be a good mom. She says that her kids will most likely have a bunch of anxiety. I then say we will just have to love them twice as much, she says “yeah” and I could tell it surprised her then responds with “honestly you are lucky that you get to be just uncle Insert my name and don’t have to be there for the rest”
  5. Through that night she tells me that she is really impressed with me lately. She also tells me that she went on a date but she doesn’t feel like she really connected with him and that she feels that I am the only one who really gets her.
  6. The next day I drive and drop off her camping stuff at her apartment, I have a lot of anxiety so I’m not there long and can barely get any words out. She gives me a hug and I say goodbye since she is leaving for a month for a field trip she says she is busy but wants to see me and that maybe we can grab dinner the next day. I say ok let me know. She doesn’t text me next day
  7. I texted her about a week ago to send me some music and she hasn’t responded yet, however she likes my social media and commented on a picture I posted

8.She also just got out of a break up 3 months ago with our bestfriend who we both felt never liked our friendship. What do you think is the issue and how can I best handle this situation Tl;DR Bestfriend sending lots of mixed signals



Submitted June 20, 2019 at 11:16PM

Ok here we go. My best female friend just got out of a relationship. The last couple months I’ve been there for her a lot. We went to a concert and did some shrooms and it seems like a lot of emotions came out. I have reason to believe she has feelings for me but I am conflicted based on the night because a lot of stuff happened. Here is my evidenceWe are at a concert and out of nowhere she asks me about another female friend I have. She asked me if her and another female friend are the same person in my mind. I say no I would go to each of them for different things. I said I’d go to my female best friend if I wanted to be myself and I said I’d go the the other female friend for emotional support. She then proceeded to start crying, ask me what I saw in this other woman, claimed I’d always be in love with her and when I asked why it matters if this other woman is in my life she said she wasn’t ready to have this conversation with me.Later in the night we are hanging out in her car and talking about how she is “crazy”. She’s not but she is an emotional person. She asks me in a playful baby voice if I like that she’s crazy. I respond by saying yes. She then giggles a lot.We found a rubber band and I hit her with it. She then says that it feels good but in a weird way. We then spend half an hour hitting each other with rubber band because it feels good.We start talking about if she’d be a good mom. She says that her kids will most likely have a bunch of anxiety. I then say we will just have to love them twice as much, she says “yeah” and I could tell it surprised her then responds with “honestly you are lucky that you get to be just uncle Insert my name and don’t have to be there for the rest”Through that night she tells me that she is really impressed with me lately. She also tells me that she went on a date but she doesn’t feel like she really connected with him and that she feels that I am the only one who really gets her.The next day I drive and drop off her camping stuff at her apartment, I have a lot of anxiety so I’m not there long and can barely get any words out. She gives me a hug and I say goodbye since she is leaving for a month for a field trip she says she is busy but wants to see me and that maybe we can grab dinner the next day. I say ok let me know. She doesn’t text me next dayI texted her about a week ago to send me some music and she hasn’t responded yet, however she likes my social media and commented on a picture I posted8.She also just got out of a break up 3 months ago with our bestfriend who we both felt never liked our friendship. What do you think is the issue and how can I best handle this situation Tl;DR Bestfriend sending lots of mixed signals

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