First time posting, throwaway for obvious reasons... My fiance and I have been together for almost four years and I really do believe she is the love of my life. She's so kind and so sweet and supportive and gentle... until she's not. It started with her yelling at me about things that she know really hurt me. Then it turned into her not wanting me to spend time with anyone except her. I understand that I work a lot so the time we get together is special, but she would blow up at me if I asked to spend time with friends and would be angry/sulk if friends came to our place (even though she agreed to have them over.) Twice now in the past four years she has put her hands on me out of anger. During a really heated argument I was afraid due to past parental abuse and wanted to leave the situation until we both calmed down. She grabbed my wrist and jerked me back, yanking my arm and digging her fingers into my skin. I just sobbed... I'm so hurt and so confused. I love her w...

I posted on r/Advice but I feel like I might get more suggestions here. Mostly, I know I could email my professors about it and get my trauma counselor involved as well, but I don't know if it is worth it and don't know if I'm just being overly sensitive. _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ A brief background, I'm in my last year and last quarter of college so I feel like I should almost just ignore it, but I really don't want to have to do group work with this person again because I find it emotionally upsetting. I suspect that this person does not like me because I've been open about the fact that one of her friends did something bad to me a few years ago. Her friend group has actively harassed me online before, attempted to defame me, and entered my place of work before to try to shit-talk me to coworkers. An attempt to silence me from talking about what their fr...

So my bfs brother and his wife are having a disagreement. We’ve given them our views, but thought it would be a good idea to get some objective opinions from reddit. The wife is having a baby in a month, and they have been talking about how they will handle finances while she’s on maternity leave (6 months at half pay) and raising the kid as a stay at home mum for the first 18 months. For context, both are on six figure salaries. His View: He will provide her a allowance of $350 per week on top of her maternity leave pay. This would provide her additional fun money. She will also contribute $150 a week to the “house account” which they will use to make household purchases, such as groceries, bills,baby’s basic necessaries and medical bills etc. he will pay the rent separately. Her view: An allowance feels controlling and demeaning. She wants to have joint accounts now that they’re having a baby. She is also concerned that she won’t have enough money to cover expenses once the 6 mo...

Ladies:How would you feel if you match with a guy on OLD, talk over the phone and have a good time and great chemistry so far, but before meeting, found out he doesn't drink... and upon asking, he admits he had a past drinking issue but is 10 years clean? Would you consider that to be a dealbreaker? What if you had past relationships with a partner who had simliar addiction issues? The reason I ask is b/c I (42M) am about to meet up with someone (51F) who I met on OLD, but after talking, she saw I didn't drink and asked me about it, ergo my question above. I assured her that I have zero desire to return to that lifestyle, which is indeed true. She said she'd take my word for it and hold me to that. I'm concerned now that her interest might fade, even though we are still meeting up this weekend. Like I said, we had an awesome connection over the phone, several mutual interests, and before this drinking conversation, complemented me that I was not like other guys (in ...

tl;dr - Got married young and never dated as an adult, staring to see my deal breakers and red flags and losing interest in GF after 6 months. Looking for advice on what to do. I've never really dated as an adult, I met my ex at 19, got married at 21, so a lot of the nuisances of the dating world are new to me. Basically, when I met my ex, I was in between deployments things got complicated after she got pregnant and I stayed because I didn't want my kid growing up without a father. I was in my last relationship for 21 years and recently started dating again, after going through a year of therapy and just figuring out who I am as a person. So much of my identity was tied to my relationship and former occupation (ex-military). About 8 months ago, I meet an amazing woman (solid career, smart and funny, sensible, no drama) ... we're in the same social group and started hanging out and eventually moved from being a casual thing to becoming more serious. She's never bee...

Link here Keen for the /r/datingoverthirty brain trust's input on photo choice (6 best pics), order, etc. I'm aware that I'm a goofy-looking guy. Just trying to make the most of what I've got. Some pics were taken by a professional and hopefully it shows. I'm on the usual suspects, also OKC and CMB. I notice I have more success on the apps that let me initiate conversation before matching. For context, my profile is some variation on this depending on app: I carry a beat up copy of "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius with me at all times. People say I laugh too loud. I'm -a tallboi (6'4) -a social scientist. I make stuff for Malcolm Gladwell to write about. -single, never married, no kids -- though I am in a mutually abusive relationship with coffee 🤸 -into running, swimming, D&D, competitive scrabble, the Pilot G2 blue pen, 90% dark chocolate ☠️, and rooibos -hard as a rock, wet as a river. Love is just learning to say yes to what...

Even when I wasn’t using the apps I had them still but now actually fully deleted the profiles. All gone. No more swiping and false match claims. I think technically my match profile is still there but I suspended the account and the app itself is off my phone. It will be the first time in years I haven’t been on any app at all for dating. They seem to have gotten worse over the years but still feels like you are missing out if you aren’t on it you know? I’m moving anyway though so my rationale is that I need to just focus on that and myself and doing stuff rather than finding love which is a) unlikely and b) probably no point when I am moving. When I move and settle in maybe I will go back to them. I don’t know just felt like saying something. Submitted April 18, 2019 at 06:44PM Even when I wasn’t using the apps I had them still but now actually fully deleted the profiles. All gone. No more swiping and false match claims. I think technically my match profile is still there ...