Me and this person have been friends for around a week and my friends are saying i need to ask them out. I believe that its still too soon. This person didn't know I existed until a week ago. Also idk if this related but they're pan, which i figure means that i need to be closer to the person before i can ask them out. Sorry if this doesn't make sense, first reddit post ever, zero clue how to format these things. Any advice? Submitted January 27, 2024 at 12:11AM Me and this person have been friends for around a week and my friends are saying i need to ask them out. I believe that its still too soon. This person didn't know I existed until a week ago. Also idk if this related but they're pan, which i figure means that i need to be closer to the person before i can ask them out. Sorry if this doesn't make sense, first reddit post ever, zero clue how to format these things. Any advice?

My 3 sibblings would be very confused if i said that. January 25, 2024 at 10:12PM

uwu January 25, 2024 at 10:09PM

Oh gladly January 25, 2024 at 10:09PM

I think this might be more related to trauma (any kind) than sexuality. January 25, 2024 at 10:07PM

Dating has been anything BUT smooth for me and I think I’m over it. For some slight context, I am a 5’9 black woman who only finds herself being drawn to black men and I live in an area of the world where black people and unfortunately black men that are taller than me are a minority, so unfortunately I don’t have a large pool of prospects to choose from. I’m just rattling off this. Information because I believe it’s relevant to my dating woes. I have tried my luck with a number of men but I have never managed to find someone and make things stick long term. I almost even feel like I’ve never had an official proper relationship as my first boyfriend was at 14 and we were together for a month and a half until he dumped me and then another long distance boyfriend at 17 for just 2 months and we had never met in person. I’ve slept with more men that I would like to admit and I deeply regret most of them. Plenty of “hookups” that led nowhere. They typically followed the pattern of me ca...

I still have some sensual attraction (if it is masc fictos, mostly). I crave being held quite often, but I have a lot trauma-related issues that make it hard to enjoy people's touch, and suspected Autism also throws in a wrench. January 23, 2024 at 11:28PM

Honestly some questions you just can't answer cuz you aren't even on the same axis as the scale they're using. For me I'd just put neutral because what doesn't exist cant be healthy or unhealthy. Nor responsible or irresponsible. January 23, 2024 at 11:28PM

No, I’m aroace. You can see that in my user flair 😭 January 22, 2024 at 11:43PM

me [22m] first time dating, got this [19f] number from bumble a month ago and been on 2 dates so far. she didn’t even let me kiss her on the lips only cheeks , but asking to have sex? ”i said “come spend the night” and tried calling but her phones always goes straight to voicemail when i call.she said “when” i said “rn if u wanna fuck we can watch netflix n cuddle” then ghosted?? told her i don’t wanna pressure her if she doesn’t wanna have sex yet.i text her next day asking her fav sex positions (lol) she told me.is she like tryna lead me on or something because she’s super ghosty in general. she ghosts whenever i try flirt and bring up seeing her over text aswell since it’s been over a month since we couldn’t see eachother cause she went back home for Christmas.she did 1 time ask to meet up at a park tho so idk. she said she was nervous but i’m not buying it. last text was me telling her i wanna see her this week. i will not text her again,i just wanna know if i’m acting desperate,...

We hung out 3-4 times, and then I told her I liked her, and she said I am like a brother to her, and that she thinks there is no chemistry. The I told her I do not want to stay in touch, because we do not have enough in common to be just friends. Like a common interest, or any reason to hang out without being intimate. And I do not just mean sex, I mean having intimate conversations, sharing feelings, dreams, being partners in life. I am looking for different qualities in a friendship. I told her all of this, and she convinced me to stay in touch. Mainly because I do not have any friends, and I have to start somewhere... This has been months ago. We hung out once, met a few times talking a little, but mostly, we are writing text messages or talking on the phone. The rejection still hurts a little to be honest, I still like her in some ways, I still value our phone conversations in some ways. To be clear, I am not interested in dating her anymore, I did not try to stay friends hopi...

It’s not strange, especially in ace circles. Personally I would prefer either romantic without kissing or a deep, platonic partnership too. January 19, 2024 at 11:17PM

I just watched my friend naked getting out of the bathroom naked and i see this sub January 19, 2024 at 11:07PM

I (20M) am a university student and was preparing for the exams with my friends last summer. The friend group consists 6 people and 3 of them know each other from high school. During this study period, a girl (21) (let's say Kate) that is their friend from high school but wasn't around too much since she studies different subject at a different building. After 1-2 days she started to hang out with us, one of the girls (20) (Sarah) that knows her from the high school and that is also someone I consider a good friend started to talk to me privately about how good we look together. I was very busy in that period so I said that I'm not interested in her. Even though I said that several times, she continued to tell these stuff and went even further talk about this in public. This happened nearly everyday for a month. I think it wouldn't happen if Kate wasn't happy about it. However, I said "no" and "I'm not interested" at first and kept this stan...

Don’t? January 17, 2024 at 11:23PM

that's wild. January 17, 2024 at 11:20PM

<3 January 17, 2024 at 11:20PM

Report it and just respond with ‘projection’ January 17, 2024 at 11:19PM

Nope not at all! it’s your choice how you identify. I personally only use the term queer for myself cuz my gender identity is a mess lol and I find it easier to tell people I’m queer instead of aroace. January 16, 2024 at 11:25PM

I hear a lot of times that parents know that their kids are gay pretty early on like 5-10 years old by their toy preferences, mannerisms, etc, so you don’t really have to be post-puberty to know. January 15, 2024 at 11:08PM

Vampire bat January 15, 2024 at 11:06PM

Unfortunately, there is no way to know for sure. You just make your best guess. January 14, 2024 at 11:16PM

this is blatant sexual assault January 14, 2024 at 11:16PM

Is that a real eminem song? I haven't listened to him for a while. January 13, 2024 at 11:45PM

I have tried everything. Maybe just not right for me I guess? Hard to truly say. The one thing I don't understand is I view myself as average and I have put a lot of time into Hinge for the past week. Got 2 total matches, 0 likes. Like sure I am average, but not 1 person in a whole week swiped right on me? It is what it is. Submitted January 13, 2024 at 12:12AM I have tried everything. Maybe just not right for me I guess? Hard to truly say. The one thing I don't understand is I view myself as average and I have put a lot of time into Hinge for the past week. Got 2 total matches, 0 likes. Like sure I am average, but not 1 person in a whole week swiped right on me? It is what it is.

straight > bi > straight > bi > gay > bi > (timeskip) > ace > (timeskip) > demi cis > agender > cis > (timeskip) > agender/gender apathetic/isogender January 11, 2024 at 11:06PM

Unfortunately, I would probably understand. I just wouldn't have the mental gymnastics to make a funny joke. I would probably text, "No, I'm good." January 10, 2024 at 11:12PM

Hey! I - female / 27 - had an amazing first date yesterday, we immediately clicked in every way, I got home afterwards and I was in a perfect mood, giggling and kicking my feet. Today we had an even better second date, probably one of the best dates of my life, I felt so good, happy & calm, like it was meant to be. We even made plana for our next date. As soon as I got out of his car I felt so anxious, then I stepped into my apartment I started to cry and I’m just really not feeling okay right now. Is it a sign? I really like him and he’s so sweet, everything was perfect, but I’m so confused and unwell right now. What the hell is happening? I had so many dates and relationships in my life, but I never experienced something like that. Submitted January 10, 2024 at 12:15AM Hey! I - female / 27 - had an amazing first date yesterday, we immediately clicked in every way, I got home afterwards and I was in a perfect mood, giggling and kicking my feet. Today we had an even bet...

I’ve been seeing a girl for about 6 months. We’ve traveled a lot together and spend every single night together and are seemingly very close. We both agree that we are just friends and sleep together. There are periods of time that she doesn’t get back to me like she usually does and I’ve noticed marks on her from another guy she’s seeing many times. We talked about not being exclusive and that was fine and that we would tell each other if we were sleeping with anyone else but she is lying about being with somebody else actively and gets defensive if I mention anything about the bruises, scratches or hickeys on her body and immediately starts deflecting and acting like I’m crazy for assuming. She also tells me that I don’t want a relationship with her and tries to make it seem like it’s my fault but I would’ve been open to the idea at one point if she he wasn’t lying about seeing another person and deflecting. It’s all very odd. She seems very sweet and considerate and does go above a...

I was rejected by a girl that I liked after having lunch with her, and I don't feel so good right now. My brain kept time-traveling to that day on what I did wrong. I still remember the day I was so happy that I finally have the courage to approach a girl in person and ask her out. For the first time in my life, I felt that I might have a chance. Maybe I said something during lunch or was too desperate. I just can't stop thinking about it and it's like a downward spiral. I just wanted to move on and be a little bit happy. But I don't blame the girl at all, she treated me with respect and dignity. Replied to my texts to turn me down within a day instead of ghosting me. At least something good happened in this scenario. Submitted January 09, 2024 at 12:11AM I was rejected by a girl that I liked after having lunch with her, and I don't feel so good right now. My brain kept time-traveling to that day on what I did wrong. I still remember the day I was so happy t...

So I’ve (22yo f) been seeing this guy (28m) for like 5 weeks, and we’re really independent, both of us. We didn’t see each other for like one week cause he worked a lot and I had things to do. He goes out sometimes to see some friends, and I do too. And just to be clear, I love my friends, and sometimes I’ll go and stay at their place for a whole week end, because my house is very toxic to me, I don’t speak to my family. But I always make sure I see him too. (All my friends are girls) I spent New Year’s Eve with him. Yesterday he went out with some friends, and I met an old friend at a restaurant. And today was his rest day, he didn’t call till late evening, and asked me what I was doing, I told him I was invited to a dinner at my friends family. He then told me « you go out a lot, you’re always doing something » and I told him « what you want me to stay at home all week ? » then he said « yes » in a « joking » way, he was laughing while saying ...

I am a 23 f look fir a 24 of 25 m in idaho falls I like to hunting and fishing and camping I am like for a man that like the same things Submitted January 09, 2024 at 12:15AM I am a 23 f look fir a 24 of 25 m in idaho falls I like to hunting and fishing and camping I am like for a man that like the same things

Hey guys so I'm a 19F, and have no luck with finding men who want a relationship. I'm always complimented about my physical features and how pretty I am but all men want to do is hookup. I'm never just asked on a date. I'm only approached by guys who are attractive but I'm not attracted to, and if I am by one I'm attracted to they just want to hook up? I've been told I can be intimidating? Do I need to hookup to get a bf? Or maybe I'm just girl pretty but I have no luck and I'm getting frustrated here!!! Any reasons why? Submitted January 08, 2024 at 12:16AM Hey guys so I'm a 19F, and have no luck with finding men who want a relationship. I'm always complimented about my physical features and how pretty I am but all men want to do is hookup. I'm never just asked on a date. I'm only approached by guys who are attractive but I'm not attracted to, and if I am by one I'm attracted to they just want to hook up? I've been...

He did knowingly drug OP . That’s a crime all by itself. (Rest of post spoiler tagged for discussion of SA) >! Put it this way: say he’d roofied OP, then decided not to go through with the assault. He’d still go to jail for the roofie, because that’s a crime all on its own. (Picked specifically because it’s actually a legal drug: it’s a prescription sleep aid that is commonly abused. So having/ingesting it isn’t a crime. Slipping it to someone is.) !< >! That OP’s only side effect was an afternoon of severe distress doesn’t actually matter. Also, a good lawyer could probably argue it into sexual assault, since the express purpose of the drugging was to force OP into a sexual encounter. It would take a good lawyer, though. !< January 06, 2024 at 11:09PM

There is some swelling of the left eyelid. We were supposed to get together tonight but I asked to meet tomorrow instead. Not sure if it’ll be gone in time. Submitted January 06, 2024 at 12:13AM There is some swelling of the left eyelid. We were supposed to get together tonight but I asked to meet tomorrow instead. Not sure if it’ll be gone in time.

I love this so much!! January 04, 2024 at 11:24PM

ye... if only they were free January 03, 2024 at 11:08PM

don’t mind the novel at all, thanks for helping me i appreciate it so much and i understand myself more now :) January 02, 2024 at 11:17PM

I do! Loud and proudly! January 02, 2024 at 11:17PM

Sounds cool to me January 02, 2024 at 11:15PM

-mashes button- 🫴 January 02, 2024 at 11:12PM

I (34F) started going out with a guy (33M) from my Bible study. We've been on a couple in person dates having lunch and doing outdoor activities. He just told me he's going out of town for work so unfortunately we won't be meeting in person for a while. He did bring up zoom dates so we could keep meeting and such. However my question is WHAT DO YOU EVEN DO ON ZOOM WHEN YOU'RE DATING EARLY ON? The end of the last date got a little "interview-y" when he started asking a barrage of questions and asking "why" / "can you give me an example" / "how so" for almost everything I answered. It kinda killed the vibe, but I do want to give him another chance since it's early on and we're both nervous. He's also told me he's had trouble in the past making connections with people outside his family. I want to get to know him and have fun (cause dates are supposed to be fun, right?). I'm willing to give anyone a chance, bu...

I don't mean to sound pessimistic but almost every single person I've talked to has unironically told me that I might have a harder time than the average person when it comes to finding someone compatible for dating because of my lifestyle and I legitimately want to better myself (not in a "new year new me then gives up" way, I genuinely want to make the effort count). I am open to new ideas and want to end this on a positive note since having an optimistic mindset is pretty important too. What do you suggest? Submitted January 02, 2024 at 12:15AM I don't mean to sound pessimistic but almost every single person I've talked to has unironically told me that I might have a harder time than the average person when it comes to finding someone compatible for dating because of my lifestyle and I legitimately want to better myself (not in a "new year new me then gives up" way, I genuinely want to make the effort count). I am open to new ideas and want...