What’s the point of their lies?

I’ve been seeing a girl for about 6 months. We’ve traveled a lot together and spend every single night together and are seemingly very close. We both agree that we are just friends and sleep together. There are periods of time that she doesn’t get back to me like she usually does and I’ve noticed marks on her from another guy she’s seeing many times. We talked about not being exclusive and that was fine and that we would tell each other if we were sleeping with anyone else but she is lying about being with somebody else actively and gets defensive if I mention anything about the bruises, scratches or hickeys on her body and immediately starts deflecting and acting like I’m crazy for assuming. She also tells me that I don’t want a relationship with her and tries to make it seem like it’s my fault but I would’ve been open to the idea at one point if she he wasn’t lying about seeing another person and deflecting. It’s all very odd. She seems very sweet and considerate and does go above and beyond for me in ways that aren’t even necessary given our dynamic. I’m not sure what she’s trying to accomplish here. I truly have no problem with her seeing someone else it’s more about why she feels like she needs to lie or sneak around about the whole thing instead of keeping it real.

Anyone that can share some perspective on this or maybe help me understand why exactly things are shifting like this?

Submitted January 09, 2024 at 12:03AM

I’ve been seeing a girl for about 6 months. We’ve traveled a lot together and spend every single night together and are seemingly very close. We both agree that we are just friends and sleep together. There are periods of time that she doesn’t get back to me like she usually does and I’ve noticed marks on her from another guy she’s seeing many times. We talked about not being exclusive and that was fine and that we would tell each other if we were sleeping with anyone else but she is lying about being with somebody else actively and gets defensive if I mention anything about the bruises, scratches or hickeys on her body and immediately starts deflecting and acting like I’m crazy for assuming. She also tells me that I don’t want a relationship with her and tries to make it seem like it’s my fault but I would’ve been open to the idea at one point if she he wasn’t lying about seeing another person and deflecting. It’s all very odd. She seems very sweet and considerate and does go above and beyond for me in ways that aren’t even necessary given our dynamic. I’m not sure what she’s trying to accomplish here. I truly have no problem with her seeing someone else it’s more about why she feels like she needs to lie or sneak around about the whole thing instead of keeping it real.Anyone that can share some perspective on this or maybe help me understand why exactly things are shifting like this?