I told her I liked her months ago, got rejected, but she convinced me to stay friends.

We hung out 3-4 times, and then I told her I liked her, and she said I am like a brother to her, and that she thinks there is no chemistry.

The I told her I do not want to stay in touch, because we do not have enough in common to be just friends. Like a common interest, or any reason to hang out without being intimate. And I do not just mean sex, I mean having intimate conversations, sharing feelings, dreams, being partners in life. I am looking for different qualities in a friendship. I told her all of this, and she convinced me to stay in touch. Mainly because I do not have any friends, and I have to start somewhere...

This has been months ago. We hung out once, met a few times talking a little, but mostly, we are writing text messages or talking on the phone.

The rejection still hurts a little to be honest, I still like her in some ways, I still value our phone conversations in some ways.

To be clear, I am not interested in dating her anymore, I did not try to stay friends hoping she would change her mind. I just wanted to be open-minded and wanted to give it a try.

She asked me today, if I would wanna hang out tomorrow, and I do not, and I do not even know why she is asking, to be honest, I do not even know how much she values anything about me.

I feel like whatever we have is not progressing anywhere, and I am certain the moment she finds a boyfriend she will cut me loose.

I want to avoid the drama, but I am pretty sure she is going to give me a hard time tomorrow about how I never want to hang out anymore. Which isn't entirely sure, but I do not wanna hang out at her place, because that is weird.

She once even told me, I am not putting in as much effort as I did when we started seeing each other, and that she is sorry, but this is all she can offer. And I told here, that she can not expect me to treat her like a girlfriend, to which she responded, "whatever".

The last couple of times she asked, I told her I do not have time to just hang out for no particular reason, or that I just do not feel like it, which was true. I would have to travel 1 hour to meet her, which I could also spend doing something I enjoy.

I find her immature and kind of rude at times, sometimes she says hurtful things, but overall, I still like her, as a friend.

But I do not want to talk on the phone anymore, I definitely do not want to text her, and I do not think there is a reason we should meet.

I do not know what I should do, I obviously have feelings for her. She is super attractive, and I am afraid this is part of the reason I like her, even if only as a friend.

We are not right for each other, I see that, I want to date someone else, so I wouldn't have problems staying friends, except, I do not think we are compatible as friends.

It would definitely hurt loosing the connection we have, but I feel like sooner or later this is going to happen, I do not think I can do anything about it. So confusing.

Submitted January 21, 2024 at 12:16AM

We hung out 3-4 times, and then I told her I liked her, and she said I am like a brother to her, and that she thinks there is no chemistry.The I told her I do not want to stay in touch, because we do not have enough in common to be just friends. Like a common interest, or any reason to hang out without being intimate. And I do not just mean sex, I mean having intimate conversations, sharing feelings, dreams, being partners in life. I am looking for different qualities in a friendship. I told her all of this, and she convinced me to stay in touch. Mainly because I do not have any friends, and I have to start somewhere...This has been months ago. We hung out once, met a few times talking a little, but mostly, we are writing text messages or talking on the phone.The rejection still hurts a little to be honest, I still like her in some ways, I still value our phone conversations in some ways.To be clear, I am not interested in dating her anymore, I did not try to stay friends hoping she would change her mind. I just wanted to be open-minded and wanted to give it a try.She asked me today, if I would wanna hang out tomorrow, and I do not, and I do not even know why she is asking, to be honest, I do not even know how much she values anything about me.I feel like whatever we have is not progressing anywhere, and I am certain the moment she finds a boyfriend she will cut me loose.I want to avoid the drama, but I am pretty sure she is going to give me a hard time tomorrow about how I never want to hang out anymore. Which isn't entirely sure, but I do not wanna hang out at her place, because that is weird.She once even told me, I am not putting in as much effort as I did when we started seeing each other, and that she is sorry, but this is all she can offer. And I told here, that she can not expect me to treat her like a girlfriend, to which she responded, "whatever".The last couple of times she asked, I told her I do not have time to just hang out for no particular reason, or that I just do not feel like it, which was true. I would have to travel 1 hour to meet her, which I could also spend doing something I enjoy.I find her immature and kind of rude at times, sometimes she says hurtful things, but overall, I still like her, as a friend.But I do not want to talk on the phone anymore, I definitely do not want to text her, and I do not think there is a reason we should meet.I do not know what I should do, I obviously have feelings for her. She is super attractive, and I am afraid this is part of the reason I like her, even if only as a friend.We are not right for each other, I see that, I want to date someone else, so I wouldn't have problems staying friends, except, I do not think we are compatible as friends.It would definitely hurt loosing the connection we have, but I feel like sooner or later this is going to happen, I do not think I can do anything about it. So confusing.