Is it even worth it anymore?

There’s this girl I’ve been talking to i had a crush on for a week in college , i met her by coming across her while she was playing genshin impact in the student lounge , we nerded out for a bit, then we added each other and played for 5 hours, i got invited to her friends discord server and after that me and her talked everyday in person and online about shit we like and about our majors, just getting to know each other in general , yesterday i took a leap of faith and asked her out for a date, she said she didn’t mind, i was so happy, she went and had to get launch and i was like cool call me when you’re done, a hour later i got a message from her saying that she was done eating then soon she told me “I thought about it a little while and I think I can't go on date with you cus um. we met like a week ago and that's pretty fast u a good person totally just not interested just yet in dating” I respected her opinion and said “got it, I understand, I’ll talk to you after you finish class” I respected her wishes and didn’t mind but what got me worked up is that when i woke up, I noticed that the server i was invited to was gone, and I checked if her friend on discord still had me added or not and i found out that i was blocked, and she was asking confused until i asked her any updates about it the next day and she said apparently someone her friend didn’t like came in and purged the server and they made a new one, obviously imo i think she’s lying and trying to dodge me, especially with her more recent slow ass responses and i am convinced that i was kicked out because i asked her out and she changed her mind because she maybe got peer pressure by her E-friends about it, at this point I don’t really care about being in a relationship with her or not since if she actually was interested in me, she would not have been peer pressured, i just want to know if she’s a decent human being and i should give her the benefit of the doubt or she’s a snake right now. Anyone thoughts?



Submitted September 16, 2022 at 12:08AM

There’s this girl I’ve been talking to i had a crush on for a week in college , i met her by coming across her while she was playing genshin impact in the student lounge , we nerded out for a bit, then we added each other and played for 5 hours, i got invited to her friends discord server and after that me and her talked everyday in person and online about shit we like and about our majors, just getting to know each other in general , yesterday i took a leap of faith and asked her out for a date, she said she didn’t mind, i was so happy, she went and had to get launch and i was like cool call me when you’re done, a hour later i got a message from her saying that she was done eating then soon she told me “I thought about it a little while and I think I can't go on date with you cus um. we met like a week ago and that's pretty fast u a good person totally just not interested just yet in dating” I respected her opinion and said “got it, I understand, I’ll talk to you after you finish class” I respected her wishes and didn’t mind but what got me worked up is that when i woke up, I noticed that the server i was invited to was gone, and I checked if her friend on discord still had me added or not and i found out that i was blocked, and she was asking confused until i asked her any updates about it the next day and she said apparently someone her friend didn’t like came in and purged the server and they made a new one, obviously imo i think she’s lying and trying to dodge me, especially with her more recent slow ass responses and i am convinced that i was kicked out because i asked her out and she changed her mind because she maybe got peer pressure by her E-friends about it, at this point I don’t really care about being in a relationship with her or not since if she actually was interested in me, she would not have been peer pressured, i just want to know if she’s a decent human being and i should give her the benefit of the doubt or she’s a snake right now. Anyone thoughts?
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