Became official bf/gf awkwardly & I’m sad

The guy I’ve been dating for 2 months became official with me, but I feel sad and distant. I was the one who initiated a cute date and asked what he thinks of us dating for 2 months. He can be shy sometimes, so he said it’s good. I nudged again asking how he’s feeling about us and how he would describe us. He said well we’re definitely dating, and he likes where it’s going. I asked if we’re exclusive, and we confirmed we’ve both been exclusive this whole time. He sensed that I wanted more to be said, and he asked “are you ready to be official already?” I said yes are you? He said he would’ve asked me to be his gf sometime during the next few weeks and that while I haven’t met his friends yet, it’s heading the direction of a relationship and said “did you want to be my gf?” I asked if that’s really what he wants, he said “sure” jokingly and then “Yes” when I reacted to that. I prefer the guy to take the lead but wanted some clear answers as it was on my mind for a while. Now I feel like I pushed him and we’ve entered into something that I’m not sure he’s ready for, and honestly I don’t know if I am either. But how do I bring this up without making it even more awkward or messing it up? Maybe I can suggest that I don’t want him to feel pressured/rushed into it if he’s not ready, but also I’m open to continuing now that we’ve become official? I’m worried about the emphasis he put on me meeting his friends; what if they don’t approve and he wants to break up? Do you all meet friends before/after becoming official? Any advice is appreciated, thank you!!

TLDR: I feel that I pressured the guy I’ve been dating for 2 months to being official with me, and he didn’t seem fully into it when he asked me to be his gf. Now I’m unsure what to do, if we’re even ready, and I don’t want to mess it up. Please help, thanks!



Submitted March 11, 2022 at 12:07AM

The guy I’ve been dating for 2 months became official with me, but I feel sad and distant. I was the one who initiated a cute date and asked what he thinks of us dating for 2 months. He can be shy sometimes, so he said it’s good. I nudged again asking how he’s feeling about us and how he would describe us. He said well we’re definitely dating, and he likes where it’s going. I asked if we’re exclusive, and we confirmed we’ve both been exclusive this whole time. He sensed that I wanted more to be said, and he asked “are you ready to be official already?” I said yes are you? He said he would’ve asked me to be his gf sometime during the next few weeks and that while I haven’t met his friends yet, it’s heading the direction of a relationship and said “did you want to be my gf?” I asked if that’s really what he wants, he said “sure” jokingly and then “Yes” when I reacted to that. I prefer the guy to take the lead but wanted some clear answers as it was on my mind for a while. Now I feel like I pushed him and we’ve entered into something that I’m not sure he’s ready for, and honestly I don’t know if I am either. But how do I bring this up without making it even more awkward or messing it up? Maybe I can suggest that I don’t want him to feel pressured/rushed into it if he’s not ready, but also I’m open to continuing now that we’ve become official? I’m worried about the emphasis he put on me meeting his friends; what if they don’t approve and he wants to break up? Do you all meet friends before/after becoming official? Any advice is appreciated, thank you!!TLDR: I feel that I pressured the guy I’ve been dating for 2 months to being official with me, and he didn’t seem fully into it when he asked me to be his gf. Now I’m unsure what to do, if we’re even ready, and I don’t want to mess it up. Please help, thanks!
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