Help with taking it further

Recently me (21M) and my girlfriend (20F) recently had a talk about how she wanted to take our sex life "Further". We have been dating for over 2 years now. First one year long distance, then we moved together for a year and are now back to long distance until summer when she moves back to me. Sex has been great, but we can only really knock ourselves out fully because of roomies and parents, she lives alone though.

My "problem" is that i am very vanilla. I can do loads of positions aswell as face sitting and i feel comfortable when we do it. My girlfriend however started out very vanilla. Now after 2 years she does alot of stuff in bed now and recently said she wanted to maybe try something like bondage. I am generally an open person and could try this. However i dont feel anywhere in me that i really want to do it, but i will probably try it out for her sake and just to explore more. She also asked if there are any things that i have never tried that i want. There arent really anything except maybe anal that i feel like i WANT to try, but she has stated before her butt is a no go.

My question is then, how do i even do bondage? Where do i learn about it on my own (Since we see eachother usually every 2nd month) and how do i maybe convince her to do something like anal or anything else? Also how do i even find more "Advanced" stuff to explore?

Thank you :)

Submitted November 07, 2021 at 12:42AM

Recently me (21M) and my girlfriend (20F) recently had a talk about how she wanted to take our sex life "Further". We have been dating for over 2 years now. First one year long distance, then we moved together for a year and are now back to long distance until summer when she moves back to me. Sex has been great, but we can only really knock ourselves out fully because of roomies and parents, she lives alone though.My "problem" is that i am very vanilla. I can do loads of positions aswell as face sitting and i feel comfortable when we do it. My girlfriend however started out very vanilla. Now after 2 years she does alot of stuff in bed now and recently said she wanted to maybe try something like bondage. I am generally an open person and could try this. However i dont feel anywhere in me that i really want to do it, but i will probably try it out for her sake and just to explore more. She also asked if there are any things that i have never tried that i want. There arent really anything except maybe anal that i feel like i WANT to try, but she has stated before her butt is a no go.My question is then, how do i even do bondage? Where do i learn about it on my own (Since we see eachother usually every 2nd month) and how do i maybe convince her to do something like anal or anything else? Also how do i even find more "Advanced" stuff to explore?Thank you :)