Things Escalated Rather Quickly part 2 - Situationship gone wrong

So, a lot has happened since my last post. I don’t even know where to begin. Please refer to last post for context.

This guy (23M) pursued me (24F) for the past eight months and we finally met in September. We went on several dates and we gradually clicked. I was very stand off ish at first, did not want to lead him on. We went on a road trip. We kissed. Passionately and a lot. He introduced me to his sibling. Came to see me every chance he could get. I started to truly appreciate and care for him.

One weekend, he advised his parents would be away and I joked that we are moving to fast. He said nothing will happen. That weekend, we went to the movies. We truly enjoyed our time and finally decided to go to his place as it was late and I couldn’t get home alone. He told me he would drive me home. He took me to the apartment instead. The current was so strong between us and I could sense that something could happen. And before I could even realize, I was on him, he was under my Shirt and it happened. I instantly felt a change in energy. He literally Turned away and went To sleep. I started sobbing feeling empty, Feeling like I’ve just ruined something that was beautifully unfolding.

The next morning was strange. It’s like we wanted to be intimate but he was so closed off. I could Sense something had changed. He changed. At first, he seemed concerned. Then, he stated we should forget what happened. He wasn’t coming to see me anymore. He became cold and started even saying “what’s the big deal? I tried but I didn’t feel it so oh well.”

I became so deeply offended that I pulled away and stopped talking. For two weeks.

Now, he is trying to text me again. He is cold , and brutal. I don’t know who I’m even dealing with anymore. He keeps repeating he is uncertain. But he wants to preserve our friendship. I can’t take this and I’m suffering in silence because I actually caught feelings for him.

I don’t know what to do in this situation ship.

TLDR/ guy pursued me For eight months. We were friends we dated then and ended up having sex after one month. Guy did a 180. Wants to stay friends. I caught feelings. Help



Submitted October 28, 2021 at 12:09AM

So, a lot has happened since my last post. I don’t even know where to begin. Please refer to last post for context.This guy (23M) pursued me (24F) for the past eight months and we finally met in September. We went on several dates and we gradually clicked. I was very stand off ish at first, did not want to lead him on. We went on a road trip. We kissed. Passionately and a lot. He introduced me to his sibling. Came to see me every chance he could get. I started to truly appreciate and care for him.One weekend, he advised his parents would be away and I joked that we are moving to fast. He said nothing will happen. That weekend, we went to the movies. We truly enjoyed our time and finally decided to go to his place as it was late and I couldn’t get home alone. He told me he would drive me home. He took me to the apartment instead. The current was so strong between us and I could sense that something could happen. And before I could even realize, I was on him, he was under my Shirt and it happened. I instantly felt a change in energy. He literally Turned away and went To sleep. I started sobbing feeling empty, Feeling like I’ve just ruined something that was beautifully unfolding.The next morning was strange. It’s like we wanted to be intimate but he was so closed off. I could Sense something had changed. He changed. At first, he seemed concerned. Then, he stated we should forget what happened. He wasn’t coming to see me anymore. He became cold and started even saying “what’s the big deal? I tried but I didn’t feel it so oh well.”I became so deeply offended that I pulled away and stopped talking. For two weeks.Now, he is trying to text me again. He is cold , and brutal. I don’t know who I’m even dealing with anymore. He keeps repeating he is uncertain. But he wants to preserve our friendship. I can’t take this and I’m suffering in silence because I actually caught feelings for him.I don’t know what to do in this situation ship.TLDR/ guy pursued me For eight months. We were friends we dated then and ended up having sex after one month. Guy did a 180. Wants to stay friends. I caught feelings. Help
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