Should I tell her that her husband is a cheater?

I met a guy on a dating app in late 2019 or early 2020. (Age 34) We were never anything more than a friend with benefits. We hooked up twice. He continued to hit me up and I would turn him down. I even told him when I got a boyfriend and he asked “does he share?” I said no of course. Well he then continued to hit me up periodically and ask if I was still in a relationship, asked how things were going, etc. He said he still wasn’t dating anyone so if I ever wanted it, I could have it. I am a faithful person so this was never going to happen. Well, I saw him post something on fb about his WIFE the other day. I researched the situation and realized that he had to have been dating her while he was hooking up with me in 2020. He also had hit me up and told me he was single the very month they got married. By looking at her profile, he encouraged her to go into the military to follow her dreams. I’m sure it was just so he could get laid while she was gone. Another time he had hit me up was just before she was able to come home. Her fb is all about him. Her profile pic, cover pic, a million things with him tagged….which he hardly ever comments back or likes them. He has two kids and her tik tok name I won’t say exactly what it is but it has something to do with best step mom. Her life revolves around him. So when I realized he was married I asked him ohhh you’re married? When did you get married? He replies “what’s it matter?” If he was still hitting ME up knowing he had no chance of hooking up, how many others is he hitting up that he actually has a chance to get laid with? I’m tempted to tell her some kind of way but I really don’t like drama and I don’t want to be directly involved with the whole situation. It looks like they have small family business as well. Advice?



Submitted September 24, 2021 at 12:08AM

I met a guy on a dating app in late 2019 or early 2020. (Age 34) We were never anything more than a friend with benefits. We hooked up twice. He continued to hit me up and I would turn him down. I even told him when I got a boyfriend and he asked “does he share?” I said no of course. Well he then continued to hit me up periodically and ask if I was still in a relationship, asked how things were going, etc. He said he still wasn’t dating anyone so if I ever wanted it, I could have it. I am a faithful person so this was never going to happen. Well, I saw him post something on fb about his WIFE the other day. I researched the situation and realized that he had to have been dating her while he was hooking up with me in 2020. He also had hit me up and told me he was single the very month they got married. By looking at her profile, he encouraged her to go into the military to follow her dreams. I’m sure it was just so he could get laid while she was gone. Another time he had hit me up was just before she was able to come home. Her fb is all about him. Her profile pic, cover pic, a million things with him tagged….which he hardly ever comments back or likes them. He has two kids and her tik tok name I won’t say exactly what it is but it has something to do with best step mom. Her life revolves around him. So when I realized he was married I asked him ohhh you’re married? When did you get married? He replies “what’s it matter?” If he was still hitting ME up knowing he had no chance of hooking up, how many others is he hitting up that he actually has a chance to get laid with? I’m tempted to tell her some kind of way but I really don’t like drama and I don’t want to be directly involved with the whole situation. It looks like they have small family business as well. Advice?
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