/u/supermassivenova on Is there a name for my strange experience with sexuality?

asexuals can have sexual desire (desire to have sex or sexual release i.e partnered sex or masturbating)

asexuality is about not feeling sexual attraction (or feeling it very rarely or under specific circumstances, essentially anyone who doesnt feel allosexual aka nonasexual).

it is actually common for aces (even sex repulsed or averse aces) to not want partnered sex but prefer to take care their needs on their own

i would check out this page on aven: https://www.asexuality.org/?q=attitudes.html

and check out their faq’s (even the ones for friends and family and partners, they are all pretty helpful and informative!)

some other info:

-demisexuality is a label under the ace umbrella where a person is essentially asexual until they form a close bond, then they can feel sexual attraction but only towards said person they have formed a bond with

-greyasexual is the general term for people who feel inbetween asexual and allosexual (in the grey area) for whatever reason. usually they dont feel sexual attraction very often, or when they do it feels very weak where they dont act on it, etc.

-there is also a specific microlabel for people who feel they are asexual specifically due to trauma, this is called “caedsexual” https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Caedsexual

at the end of the day, labels are here to help you and make you feel connected to others who share similar experiences as well feel connected to yourself. you dont need to use any label but also dont be afraid to do so or worry that you need to fit xyz qualifications

you are also definitely not alone in not wanting to have sex with people and of course you are always welcome in the community as i am sure you can find many like minded people!

July 24, 2021 at 11:43PM