Need more intimacy

So, my boyfriend (24 M) and I (22 F) have been dating for over a year. We moved in with each other over the summer because of work and after college it just made sense.

Before we lived together, and even when we first moved in sex was not a problem. We’d have sex up to 6 times a day. I understand that’s the honeymoon period and things won’t always be like that.

But now we have sex maybe twice a month, and honestly it’s just not enough for me. I’ve tried to initiate things but only end up getting left disappointed. I brought up my concerns and he says he was stressed and that’s why stress drive was low. Now we’re going on 5 months within this same cycle. It’s embarrassing that I can’t get my own boyfriend to have sex with me I just don’t understand how he could go from needing more sex than even I could keep up with to nothing and not even seem to notice about it. When I brought this up again he said he wants it to happen naturally and doesn’t like when I beg for sex. but it never happens naturally! his mind is always on his phone or something else instead!

at this point i feel so discouraged about myself because of the constant thoughts of him not wanting me anymore. i feel like i’ve tried everything.

Should I be worried about him getting off elsewhere? or how do i fix this? please help

Submitted February 19, 2021 at 11:35PM

So, my boyfriend (24 M) and I (22 F) have been dating for over a year. We moved in with each other over the summer because of work and after college it just made sense.Before we lived together, and even when we first moved in sex was not a problem. We’d have sex up to 6 times a day. I understand that’s the honeymoon period and things won’t always be like that.But now we have sex maybe twice a month, and honestly it’s just not enough for me. I’ve tried to initiate things but only end up getting left disappointed. I brought up my concerns and he says he was stressed and that’s why stress drive was low. Now we’re going on 5 months within this same cycle. It’s embarrassing that I can’t get my own boyfriend to have sex with me I just don’t understand how he could go from needing more sex than even I could keep up with to nothing and not even seem to notice about it. When I brought this up again he said he wants it to happen naturally and doesn’t like when I beg for sex. but it never happens naturally! his mind is always on his phone or something else instead!at this point i feel so discouraged about myself because of the constant thoughts of him not wanting me anymore. i feel like i’ve tried everything.Should I be worried about him getting off elsewhere? or how do i fix this? please help