What should a guy [M21] do to keep a girl [F19] interested during lockdown?

Realised this was a bit long after writing this, so skip to the TL;DR if you want. Recommend reading the whole thing to get the full context though.

So I met this girl back in February, went on a date and the chemistry was amazing between us. Even texting together was super fun. Then ya boi Corona hit and she had to go back to her home country. After a couple months of texting she said that, even though she felt a click between us too, cause of the whole pandemic situ it would be better if we chatted again when she came back to the UK in September.

So September comes round and she messages me saying she's back. We end up going on 3 dates which go really well, except I feel the last one. She comes round for a drink and to play some Switch. End up playing truth or drink until like 1AM which meant we found out a lot more about each other and I was kind of falling for this girl which doesn't often happen when I meet someone new. End up kissing on the sofa and she sleeps round, but after that kiss on the sofa I decided to become the shyest guy in the world and didn't kiss her afterwards. Even in bed we barely cuddled because I just got too nervous. In the morning I made us some breakfast, and then walked her to the bus stop before hugging goodbye. Basically just fully simped out.

That was 2 weeks ago and since then we've chatted less frequently and haven't had a chance to meet-up. I did ask her last minute if she wanted to hang out today evening since one of my friends cancelled on me, but she ended up replying late in the evening with a standard excuse that she didn't see the message. She's a pretty nice person so still makes conversation and replies eventually, but I can feel her losing interest.

Sorry for the length of the post but that's a bit of context, and my question to you people of the subreddit is this. Tomorrow the UK is going into another lockdown, so I most probably won't see her for a while. Considering it feels like she's losing interest, what's the best thing to do next to still get a chance to meet-up after this lockdown?

On a side note, I've gone through all the emotions of getting mad at myself and then accepting and learning from being too much of a 'nice guy', so don't need the comment section lecturing me on that. To be honest it's because I actually like this girl and am a bit nervous about fucking things up. Usually my dates lead to not seeing each other again or becoming friends with benefits, what do you actually do when you start liking the person emotionally...

TL;DR - Went on a few dates with a girl. On the 3rd one when she came round we kissed and she slept round but we didn't do anything past the initial kiss because I got too nervous. Can feel her losing interest in her messages since then (2 weeks ago). The UK is going into another lockdown from tomorrow, what's the best thing to do to still get a chance to see her after the lockdown and not make her lose interest?



Submitted November 04, 2020 at 11:51PM

Realised this was a bit long after writing this, so skip to the TL;DR if you want. Recommend reading the whole thing to get the full context though.So I met this girl back in February, went on a date and the chemistry was amazing between us. Even texting together was super fun. Then ya boi Corona hit and she had to go back to her home country. After a couple months of texting she said that, even though she felt a click between us too, cause of the whole pandemic situ it would be better if we chatted again when she came back to the UK in September.So September comes round and she messages me saying she's back. We end up going on 3 dates which go really well, except I feel the last one. She comes round for a drink and to play some Switch. End up playing truth or drink until like 1AM which meant we found out a lot more about each other and I was kind of falling for this girl which doesn't often happen when I meet someone new. End up kissing on the sofa and she sleeps round, but after that kiss on the sofa I decided to become the shyest guy in the world and didn't kiss her afterwards. Even in bed we barely cuddled because I just got too nervous. In the morning I made us some breakfast, and then walked her to the bus stop before hugging goodbye. Basically just fully simped out.That was 2 weeks ago and since then we've chatted less frequently and haven't had a chance to meet-up. I did ask her last minute if she wanted to hang out today evening since one of my friends cancelled on me, but she ended up replying late in the evening with a standard excuse that she didn't see the message. She's a pretty nice person so still makes conversation and replies eventually, but I can feel her losing interest.Sorry for the length of the post but that's a bit of context, and my question to you people of the subreddit is this. Tomorrow the UK is going into another lockdown, so I most probably won't see her for a while. Considering it feels like she's losing interest, what's the best thing to do next to still get a chance to meet-up after this lockdown?On a side note, I've gone through all the emotions of getting mad at myself and then accepting and learning from being too much of a 'nice guy', so don't need the comment section lecturing me on that. To be honest it's because I actually like this girl and am a bit nervous about fucking things up. Usually my dates lead to not seeing each other again or becoming friends with benefits, what do you actually do when you start liking the person emotionally...TL;DR - Went on a few dates with a girl. On the 3rd one when she came round we kissed and she slept round but we didn't do anything past the initial kiss because I got too nervous. Can feel her losing interest in her messages since then (2 weeks ago). The UK is going into another lockdown from tomorrow, what's the best thing to do to still get a chance to see her after the lockdown and not make her lose interest?

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