Thinking about ending things with my gf of 6 months

Ok first off I’m not a super avid Reddit user, just to scroll through pewds’ subreddit and look at some funny stuff here and there, so if I’m not using the right lingo or whatever please correct me.

Me [16M] and my girlfriend [15F] have been dating for 6 months and some now. She is amazing and I love her SO much. She is everything I look for. She’s smart, mind giving, super pretty, and she likes me a lot too... or at least that’s what she tells me. I’ve looked into this and apparently it’s called “relationship anxiety” but I believe have it for a reason. Before I start with my question, here’s some context to our relationship.

We met through a friend in school. We were in the same grade and even had a classe with each other but my school is giant so I never really noticed her. One of her best friends introduced me to her when she had hung out with her the night before and she was on the bus in the morning. Blah blah blah we hang out with a group of friends and what do you know after about a month and a half of talking and getting to know each other we are together.

We fit really well, neither of us are super serious about our relationship but I tend to think I’m the more serious one even though we are both pretty ‘lax about things. I am her first boyfriend, which is kind of complicated because she isn’t my first girlfriend (but definitely the best one I’ve had). Especially with the first kiss. She isn’t very good at kissing but I didn’t tell her that obviously. I tried to kind of lead her on and it sort of worked. We hang out pretty regularly. Like once a week but we are both pretty busy and I have my license but she doesn’t so that makes things a little harder.

ANYWAYS back to my concern. As you can tell I am all about her. She’s great, except for one thing. Whenever we are together alone and I try to show some affection she seems to just ignore. Now I’m not talking about anything sexual here, I’m one to keep it pretty classy. But when I get close to her she tends to stiffen up, but after awhile she’ll relax and lay her head on my shoulder or something like that. Another big thing is when I try to kiss her, it’s only one little peck. I’ve never gotten more. I wouldn’t usually complain about this but we’ve been together for 6 months and it makes me feel just kind of awkward, especially since I’m a very affectionate person. I know I’m young and that I shouldn’t be concerned about getting super far, but maybe just like something more than a bird peck? I brought up the smelly breath problem in a joking way and it’s confirmed that that’s not the problem. I’ve tried to talk to her about it but the most I can get is “I’m not super into excessive stuff” and I move on before it becomes awkward. She has had issues with friends before kind of betraying her (she now has much better friends that like me and I like them) so maybe she just doesn’t want to commit to something as big as a “long kiss”. She seems like the type of person to wait for the perfect time, I mean it took her forever to say “I love you”. I think 5 months. But 6 months with just little pecks? She also seems not too have full trust in me. I get not having 100% blind faith but it seems like every little thing she would rather tell her friends than me. It’s hard to get her to open up about things.

The thing is I still really love her and I don’t think something like this is really worth ending everything, but it really gets on my nerves and been on my nerves for awhile. Any advise on this would GLADLY be accepted and I’ll try to answer all questions and such. Thanks!

Submitted October 10, 2020 at 12:55AM

Ok first off I’m not a super avid Reddit user, just to scroll through pewds’ subreddit and look at some funny stuff here and there, so if I’m not using the right lingo or whatever please correct me.Me [16M] and my girlfriend [15F] have been dating for 6 months and some now. She is amazing and I love her SO much. She is everything I look for. She’s smart, mind giving, super pretty, and she likes me a lot too... or at least that’s what she tells me. I’ve looked into this and apparently it’s called “relationship anxiety” but I believe have it for a reason. Before I start with my question, here’s some context to our relationship.We met through a friend in school. We were in the same grade and even had a classe with each other but my school is giant so I never really noticed her. One of her best friends introduced me to her when she had hung out with her the night before and she was on the bus in the morning. Blah blah blah we hang out with a group of friends and what do you know after about a month and a half of talking and getting to know each other we are together.We fit really well, neither of us are super serious about our relationship but I tend to think I’m the more serious one even though we are both pretty ‘lax about things. I am her first boyfriend, which is kind of complicated because she isn’t my first girlfriend (but definitely the best one I’ve had). Especially with the first kiss. She isn’t very good at kissing but I didn’t tell her that obviously. I tried to kind of lead her on and it sort of worked. We hang out pretty regularly. Like once a week but we are both pretty busy and I have my license but she doesn’t so that makes things a little harder.ANYWAYS back to my concern. As you can tell I am all about her. She’s great, except for one thing. Whenever we are together alone and I try to show some affection she seems to just ignore. Now I’m not talking about anything sexual here, I’m one to keep it pretty classy. But when I get close to her she tends to stiffen up, but after awhile she’ll relax and lay her head on my shoulder or something like that. Another big thing is when I try to kiss her, it’s only one little peck. I’ve never gotten more. I wouldn’t usually complain about this but we’ve been together for 6 months and it makes me feel just kind of awkward, especially since I’m a very affectionate person. I know I’m young and that I shouldn’t be concerned about getting super far, but maybe just like something more than a bird peck? I brought up the smelly breath problem in a joking way and it’s confirmed that that’s not the problem. I’ve tried to talk to her about it but the most I can get is “I’m not super into excessive stuff” and I move on before it becomes awkward. She has had issues with friends before kind of betraying her (she now has much better friends that like me and I like them) so maybe she just doesn’t want to commit to something as big as a “long kiss”. She seems like the type of person to wait for the perfect time, I mean it took her forever to say “I love you”. I think 5 months. But 6 months with just little pecks? She also seems not too have full trust in me. I get not having 100% blind faith but it seems like every little thing she would rather tell her friends than me. It’s hard to get her to open up about things.The thing is I still really love her and I don’t think something like this is really worth ending everything, but it really gets on my nerves and been on my nerves for awhile. Any advise on this would GLADLY be accepted and I’ll try to answer all questions and such. Thanks!