Really need help in seeing if my friend likes me or not

Hi, I (22F) met my friend (22M) during freshman year in college through mutual friends. I recently started to go out more and went to one our friend's house where I met him again. Whenever I saw him, he would do eye contact with me and talk a lot. I felt some chemistry between us whenever I saw him! After seeing him a couple times at my friends house I messaged him asking if there was something going on. I also just got out of a long relationship so I'm not really familiar to the flirting world anymore lol. He informed that he though I was pretty and was just checking me out. I told him I had an old crush on him, he replied that he had one too. He added that he would be lying if he said he still didn't. We've been seeing each other for the last 2 weeks or so and its mostly just Netflix and chill type of nights, but one night he told him he was into to me. I was shocked that night and couldn't say anything at the time. The next time I saw him, I told him I was into him too. But the problem was that last week I accidentally said I love him while we were making out, I didn't mean to say it like that but it just happened. I whispered so I don't even know if he heard me or not. The following morning I though he said he loves me back but I am still not sure which is super confusing for me. We don't really talk to other, its more like friends with benefits but I think I am growing strong feelings for him. Before this all started he told me he wasn't looking for a serious relationship because he's moving to a different state in less than 2 months and I also just left a relationship so I was ok with that. But now I don't know what to do! Sometimes he says funny complements that suggests that he is a little nervous but at the same time idk if its just sex talk. I really like him but don't know if he likes me back or if its just a fling. He barely talks to me and sometimes I have to reach him out. But whenever I see him I notice that his heart beats really fast when I lay on his chest. He also told me that he couldn't sleep all night when I slept with him the last time which I though it was weird because I had just told him that Im scared of getting hurt and would prefer to only see him once a week. Can anyone give any suggestions or have any thoughts on what I should do?



Submitted October 27, 2020 at 12:05AM

Hi, I (22F) met my friend (22M) during freshman year in college through mutual friends. I recently started to go out more and went to one our friend's house where I met him again. Whenever I saw him, he would do eye contact with me and talk a lot. I felt some chemistry between us whenever I saw him! After seeing him a couple times at my friends house I messaged him asking if there was something going on. I also just got out of a long relationship so I'm not really familiar to the flirting world anymore lol. He informed that he though I was pretty and was just checking me out. I told him I had an old crush on him, he replied that he had one too. He added that he would be lying if he said he still didn't. We've been seeing each other for the last 2 weeks or so and its mostly just Netflix and chill type of nights, but one night he told him he was into to me. I was shocked that night and couldn't say anything at the time. The next time I saw him, I told him I was into him too. But the problem was that last week I accidentally said I love him while we were making out, I didn't mean to say it like that but it just happened. I whispered so I don't even know if he heard me or not. The following morning I though he said he loves me back but I am still not sure which is super confusing for me. We don't really talk to other, its more like friends with benefits but I think I am growing strong feelings for him. Before this all started he told me he wasn't looking for a serious relationship because he's moving to a different state in less than 2 months and I also just left a relationship so I was ok with that. But now I don't know what to do! Sometimes he says funny complements that suggests that he is a little nervous but at the same time idk if its just sex talk. I really like him but don't know if he likes me back or if its just a fling. He barely talks to me and sometimes I have to reach him out. But whenever I see him I notice that his heart beats really fast when I lay on his chest. He also told me that he couldn't sleep all night when I slept with him the last time which I though it was weird because I had just told him that Im scared of getting hurt and would prefer to only see him once a week. Can anyone give any suggestions or have any thoughts on what I should do?
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