I got friend-zoned but cut it off, now I regret it and wanna see her again?

So I (19M) have been talking to this girl (18F) for about two months or so, we have had three dates and planned a fourth (valentines day). The last few days she has been pretty distant texting wise so I asked if everything was going all right and if we were still on for the 14th... I wait a while and bzzzz my phone shows a preview of a really long paragraph and my heart drops as I open it, I thought “oh no” she basically explains that she doesn’t feel a connection romantically and that she would prefer to stay friends if I’m happy with that (pics below). So I reply and basically say that based on past experiences I think it would probably be better in the long run that we end things here on a good note, because I would be hurt seeing her with someone else.

She replies with something along the lines of If I ever feel ready to just be friends and still wanna hang out etc to let her know. Now I’m gonna be honest here she is pretty much everything that I want in a partner and we do get along really well, I don’t intend on pursuing her romantically, as she has made it clear she isn’t interested. But I would love to see her again as It’s been amazing hanging out with her. Is this a good idea? If so how do I do a 180 and explain myself. My other concern is that maybe she is just saying that to be nice.

P.s. Of our first three dates I didn’t make any moves no hand holding, cuddling etc, she was my first ever date (previous experiences, nothing serious) and I was super nervous about coming off as creepy and Tbh I had no idea what I was doing.

TLDR went on a few dates and fell for my ideal partner, she didn’t feel the same way and I got friend-zoned, I reply saying we should just end things now because it would hurt me in the long run seeing her with another, I regret my decision a lot. Is it to late to hang out and be friends? And was she just being polite with her offer?

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Submitted February 14, 2020 at 12:01AM

So I (19M) have been talking to this girl (18F) for about two months or so, we have had three dates and planned a fourth (valentines day). The last few days she has been pretty distant texting wise so I asked if everything was going all right and if we were still on for the 14th... I wait a while and bzzzz my phone shows a preview of a really long paragraph and my heart drops as I open it, I thought “oh no” she basically explains that she doesn’t feel a connection romantically and that she would prefer to stay friends if I’m happy with that (pics below). So I reply and basically say that based on past experiences I think it would probably be better in the long run that we end things here on a good note, because I would be hurt seeing her with someone else.She replies with something along the lines of If I ever feel ready to just be friends and still wanna hang out etc to let her know. Now I’m gonna be honest here she is pretty much everything that I want in a partner and we do get along really well, I don’t intend on pursuing her romantically, as she has made it clear she isn’t interested. But I would love to see her again as It’s been amazing hanging out with her. Is this a good idea? If so how do I do a 180 and explain myself. My other concern is that maybe she is just saying that to be nice.P.s. Of our first three dates I didn’t make any moves no hand holding, cuddling etc, she was my first ever date (previous experiences, nothing serious) and I was super nervous about coming off as creepy and Tbh I had no idea what I was doing.TLDR went on a few dates and fell for my ideal partner, she didn’t feel the same way and I got friend-zoned, I reply saying we should just end things now because it would hurt me in the long run seeing her with another, I regret my decision a lot. Is it to late to hang out and be friends? And was she just being polite with her offer?Link to screenies for better context: https://ift.tt/37rQrk0 you for listening to my presentation
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